How to Show Up for YOU, Your Family, & Business When Balance Feels Impossible with Loretta Soffe

Earn Your Happy

Lori Harder

Business, Entrepreneurship

4.6 • 2.8K Ratings

🗓️ 13 October 2025

⏱️ 82 minutes

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What if everything you’ve been taught about work-life balance is a lie? In this episode, I sit down with Loretta Soffe to talk about being the breadwinner in marriage, the radical choice her husband made to become a full-time dad in the early 2000s, and how discipline, fitness, values, and intention help you build a life you truly love. We also break down the Compatibility Code that helps couples grow through decades of change. Get ready to rethink balance, partnership, ambition, and motherhood in a whole new way. Check out our Sponsors: SKIMS - I finally tried SKIMS and I get all the hype. Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at SKIMS.com and let them know we sent you in the dropdown after checkout. Brevo - the all-in-one marketing and CRM platform designed to help you connect with customers and grow your business. Get started for free today - go to www.brevo.com/happy Blinds.com - Blinds.com makes it easy to get the designer look without the showroom markups. Get an exclusive $50 off when you spend $500 or more with code EARN at checkout. Shopify - Try the ecommerce platform I trust for Glōci, Sign up for your $1/month trial period at Shopify.com/happy Headway - the #1 daily growth app that delivers key insights from the world’s best non fiction books in bite sized 15 minute reads and audio. Save 25% off when you go to makeheadway.com/happy. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Why the idea of “balance” is total BS. 05:15 How do you raise kids who want to hang out with you? 10:00 How did you flip the script on traditional parenting roles? 15:00 The judgment, stereotypes, and joy of reversing traditional roles. 20:15 Teamwork, humility, and the “no division of labor” rule in marriage. 26:30 Leadership lessons Loretta used at home. 29:00 How to help your kids build confidence. 33:15 Why can’t you give everything 100% all the time? 39:30 How Loretta landed her biggest consulting contract. 45:00 Imposter syndrome, readiness, and saying YES before you feel ready. 49:15 How do you stay on purpose even when you're being judged? 52:45 Loretta’s value-based decision-making framework. 56:15 Fitness and rituals for mental clarity and resilience. 01:03:30 Postpartum tip to regain energy, focus, and a sense of self. 01:06:30 The Compatibility Code for lasting relationships. 01:14:30 Your core values matter more than perfect balance. RESOURCES Get your copy of Loretta’s book, Balance is Bullshit HERE! Learn more from Loretta HERE! Join the Audacity Challenge HERE! Join the most supportive mastermind on the internet HERE! Check out our FREE 90-Day Business Blueprint HERE! Listen to my free SECRET PODCASTS SERIES - Operation: Rekindle This B*tch Get glōci HERE Use code: HAPPY at checkout for 25% off! FOLLOW Follow me: @loriharder Follow glōci: @getgloci Follow Loretta: @loretta_soffe

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0:00.0	Why do we feel so much pressure to feel like our life is balanced? Like I get that question all the time too. Like, how do you balance it all? How do you bet? I'm like, oh my God, I don't. You can live a life that's just uniquely yours. It doesn't have to be the one you see on Instagram. It doesn't have to be the one your mom imposes on you. your friends look like they have.
0:22.8	Everyone's got their stuff.
0:24.5	There's always going to be a fire burning.
0:30.1	There's probably always going to be someone who's thinking something about me or why didn't you return that text or that email. And now I'm like, my God, I don't have to answer all the messages.
0:33.4	I don't have to answer all the emails.
0:34.9	It's like freedom.
0:46.0	Loretta, welcome to the Earn Your Happy podcast.
0:47.5	Thank you so much for coming on.
0:48.8	Thank you for having me.
0:50.8	I've been looking so forward to this.
0:56.0	I'm so excited for you because you just released your book, which balance is bullshit. We love this. We love this title. And I found you. I actually found you on
1:03.3	Instagram. I was trying to figure out what real it was. I'm not sure. I think it was something
1:07.0	posted about a family vacation. And I know which one. I- I immediately was like, oh, I love the way that this family thinks and how this woman thinks.
1:19.6	And then I did a little, just a little bit of scrolling and you do such a good job on your
1:24.6	Instagram of kind of talking about your core values and talking about
1:29.0	the way you lead your family and what that looks like for you. And I was like, okay, this couple,
1:34.0	because it was like you and your husband and your kids, because my husband and I still, yes, I'm
1:38.4	older, but we're still going to have kids. I'm always looking for great examples of people who
1:43.4	are not only great examples in life,
1:45.2	but also who have like really still talk about career and ambition.
1:50.9	And so right away I was like, oh, I love this because it looks like they somehow have been
1:57.6	able to figure it out and manage it all.
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