Welcome to what drives you. I'm Kevin Miller in this episode how to separate what you do from who you are.

Imagine meeting someone new and them asking so who are you instead of what do you do?

How would you even answer?

I'm reminded of a story by famed author Donald Miller.

He writes about attending a therapy retreat and for the first three days nobody could share what

they did vocationally.

He said it was excruciating not to be able to tell people he was a successful author and he realized how much of his identity was wrapped around his roles.

I never knew myself outside of what I did until far too recently.

So here I'm going to unpack some thoughts around the concept.

When I'm not having these conversations about human potential I'm usually working directly with people on their human potential

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possible and then I ask you to drive with me a moment to consider again how to separate what you do from who you are and let's see what we can learn about ourselves today.

In my recent show with therapist Terry Cole we talked about doing too much and our drive to have our self identity be around what we do.

Taking too much responsibility for life

and the lives of others and placing so much of our worth

around the roles we fulfill.

Terry's new book is called Too Much, a guide to breaking the cycle of high functioning

codependency. That was our muse for the talk and I had her on because, well I'd have her on to talk about anything.

That's the third time I've had her on the show, I think.

But this topic of the high-functioning codependency, codependent, fit me very well and I saw the aspects of it in a lot of people that I know.

What we do, it's powerful, it seems really hard to detach from.

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