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Hello, I'm Tessa.

I'm Stevie and this episode well here's a little clue

Tessa do you want to go out with me gosh no thank you there we go That's a really great example of saying no. How to say no. How to say no.

We've had a couple of messages from various people asking for this. From variations on like, how do I say no at work? like how do I say no work like how to I be more like able to say no in general and also crucially

how do I say no to people trying to woo you we had a conversation about that feeling when somebody goes,

oh, can I buy a drink or like, oh, do you want to hang out?

And I immediately always go, so now I've got a boyfriend, even if I haven't.

One of our friends is like, why do I have say oh no so I'm owned by somebody else like why can't I just say no and be fine with that and this was four years ago I was like absolutely yeah next time that happens I'm just to say no and every time I go, no, I've got a boyfriend. I can't stop that second being coming out.

Oh, thank you so much, but no thank you.

I've got a boyfriend. See, look, I just didn't. I've got a boyfriend.

Yes, it's very instinctive to want to put a because.

Yeah, it's hard trying to say no thing because everybody wants to be a nice person and nobody

wants to upset anybody. No nobody wants to upset anybody

no one wants to let anybody down and you can't often just go no you have to

say another thing I mean there's a reason it's hard but we don't want to

let anybody down we want to make everybody happy we don't want

this suitor to feel sad or kill us.

There have been times where I've been like on a train and I've seen some guy like just

trying to chat to these girls like and he just won't stop

often two girls one guy and the girls being so polite but he's being really pushy we

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