And the Hello my lovelies this is Tim Ferris and welcome to another episode of the Tribe of Mentors Podcast, which is likely also being cross-post

on the Tim Ferris Show podcast.

This episode is going to cover rejection, more specifically rejecting other people saying no.

Many of the questions that I get are about how to parse the noise from the signal, how to separate out the trivial many, say no to obligations and fear of missing out,

so you can say yes to the critical few.

This is an ongoing challenge for a lot of people and the tools and strategies and

tactics that help can almost overnight make an enormous impact in different areas of your life.

And you have various guidelines that guests I've interviewed, for instance,

in the Tim Ferris Show of Shearts, such as Derek Syvers,

who is not only a very, very accomplished entrepreneur who built and sold CD baby

also a musician and philosopher king of programming in some respects would use

the hell yes or no heuristic in other words if he doesn't say or can't say

hell yes I want to do that to something the answer is a no it is binary there

are many many other guidelines like that that you might use, but when the

rubber hits the road, you need specific words, you need specific phrases that you can use to decline and say no.

And as it turns out when I was writing the tribe of mentors book, the tribe of mentors, Short Life Advice from the Best in the World, which

ended up including 130 of the most incredible world-class performers from around the world

in every discipline imaginable. Many people I reached out to said,

no, I was rejected. I was declined. I was mostly polite declined.

And it turned out that some of those rejection letters were so good.

They were so expertly crafted that I turned right around and I asked the people who

rejected me if I could include their letters in Tribe of Mentors, the book itself.

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