Hello, welcome to the show. This is Emotional Badass, where Moxie meets Mindful. I'm your host,

Nikki Eisenhower, life coach and psychotherapist. And on today's episode, we're discussing

how to repair after a fight, especially when you've never seen healthy repair modeled.

Thank you. seen healthy repair modeled. All right, y'all, welcome to the show.

This is a big topic that we're going to cover today.

It came up recently in one of my communities.

You're always welcome to come check out what's going on, the different ways to work with me at Emotionalbattas.com.

And I promised my group members that I would do some episodes on repair because it is such a big

topic. Repair after a fight when you've never seen healthy repair modeled is really tough,

and it's something that takes a lot of intentional work, patience, and heart. Healing isn't about

never messing up, y'all. It's about learning how to come back together after we mess up. That's one of those

things that sounds really simple, and it is in theory, but when we come from a lot of dysfunction

in chaos or narcissistic immature parenting style, this can feel like a massive undertaking.

I promise you there is so much that can be done towards you learning repair so if you grew up in a home where fighting meant emotional withdrawal punishment

that cold silent treatment when people are upset if you grew up with the dynamic of sweeping it all

under the rug or kind of blow out chaos, you're likely to never have learned how to repair.

You likely know that repair is a thing and having to come back together after upset is a thing,

but you might feel completely outside of your element or your know-how

about how to do that. It's one of the most vulnerable places that we can find ourselves as highly

sensitive people. It's not your fault if you grew up in these dynamics. So many of us have.

And none of this work is about blaming parents. It's about really

understanding what has happened, what hasn't happened for us to get to where we are right now.

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