Hi, everybody. Welcome to the Women's Dating and Confidence Podcast. My name is Amber, and today we're

going to be talking about how to reduce your anxiety once you realize that you actually really

like somebody and you feel

attached to the outcome. So this actually came up recently when I was in a coaching call with a woman

and she asked me the question, Amber, how do I not start feeling really anxious and pressured and

worried once I actually start liking somebody? It's really easy to do the things

that you're talking about when I don't like somebody, but when I actually feel like there's potential

there, I start getting really anxious about the whole thing. So the first thing that I told her,

which I believe I've kind of discussed on this podcast before, but I'll kind of summarize

it here again, is that so often, especially as women, when we find one or two qualities that

we really like in somebody or we just feel a little bit of chemistry on the first few dates,

we spend a lot of time in our imagination after that. So 90% of your feelings are created by

this image that you've created of what your relationship could be like and what your next

date is going to be like and what engagement ring he's going to buy you and like all of this

stuff that you make up in your head based on the few things that you liked

about him in the first few dates or even the first month of dating. And so sometimes it's

really important to take a step back and realize that you don't know him very well. You've only

hung out a few hours with him. If you've been on a few dates,

like, you couldn't possibly know him to the extent that you would feel sold on a relationship

with him. And so that's the problem is when you're sold on a relationship with him

through your imagination and not through the reality of how he's treating

you and how you two are creating a relationship together, then you fall out of alignment.

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