Coming to you from the Center for Social Confidence in Portland, Oregon, welcome to shrink for the shy guy, helping men everywhere go from social anxiety to social domination.

With your host, Dr. Raziz.

Welcome to today's episode of this show.

Today you're going to learn some powerful insights from one of the most down-to-earth, wisest

people that I've ever had the privilege of speaking with.

And one of the things that we're going to be diving deep into in today's episode and today's

interview with him is this idea that you are a verb, that you're not a noun.

We tend to think of ourselves in this fixed way like, I am this, I am nervous, I am awkward,

I'm not a good conversationalist, I'm not confidence. I'm not good in meetings.

Whatever your area is that you're struggling with your confidence. I'm not good at sales. I get

nervous on the phone. And when I work with people day in and day out, I will hear them use this

language. And what it does is it takes a process, a verb, a moment-to-moment way of, you know, in each moment, you're acting, you're doing something.

So when you're picking up the phone to call, in that moment, you might feel nervous.

And that's true in your experience, right?

But then later on, when you say,

oh, I always get nervous before phone calls, now you're taking this very active, ongoing process

and smushing it down into a static, permanent way of being in the world. And that's where your

identity can get locked in place.

That's where you can really get stuck for a long time. And so Steve has got some brilliant ideas

about how to work with this, how to break through this. I mean, he's one of the world's top coaches,

and it's going to be an honor to speak with him. So without further ado, let's jump into

our guest expert interview for today.

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