How to Raise Your Standards and Find Your Person with Matthew Hussey • 345

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Melissa Monte | Conscious Coach

Mental Health, Mindfulness, Consciousness, Personal Growth, Spiritual Growth, Inspirational, Awakening, Religion & Spirituality, Spirituality, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 897 Ratings

🗓️ 23 April 2024

⏱️ 70 minutes

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Summary

We will learn: The power of adjusting our reactions by just 1% to create a whole new reality in our relationships. How our identities shape our habits and the importance of evolving our sense of self to inspire change. The crucial role of clear boundaries and standards in forging healthy, fulfilling relationships. Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "Why does this always happen to me? Am I attracting dogs or is this just the state of the market?” At some point, it starts to feel like the right person is an illusion. If you’ve found yourself in a cycle of the same relationship issues over and over again, it often means that you’re caught in a belief system that is subconsciously shaping your reality. If you don't confront these patterns, decouple from them, and cultivate new ones, you could be sentencing yourself to a life of rinse and repeat. So maybe, it’s time to ask the hard questions, and that’s what this episode is about. How to raise your standards, set intentions, and find your person. Our guest is Matthew Hussey. He is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and coach specializing in confidence and relational intelligence. His YouTube channel is number one in the world for love life advice, with over half a billion views. He also writes a weekly newsletter and is the host of the podcast “Love Life With Matthew Hussey.” Today he will teach us his proven approach to finding love but also how to feel confident and in control of our own happiness regardless of relationship status. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/345 Become a Mind Love Member for high-value Masterclasses, Growth Workbooks, Monthly Meditations, and Uninterrupted Listening FREE 5-Days to Purpose Email Course Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	If you're dating or looking for love, have you ever caught yourself thinking,
0:04.0	why does this always happen to me? Am I attracting dogs or is this just the state of the market?
0:09.0	At some point it starts to feel like the right person is an illusion.
0:14.0	I gotta tell you, I do not miss dating.
0:17.0	Well, I kind of do.
0:19.0	I miss feeling of going out at night and feeling like anything could happen.
0:23.0	I could meet someone that changes the course of my life.
0:26.3	I failed to ask myself, however, if I really wanted my person to be someone,
0:30.8	I met snorting lines of a bathroom counter in a random penthouse owned by a guy who was trying to buy affection from women who ultimately only were interested in his money.
0:39.0	But who has time for such questions when you're dating?
0:42.0	That's the problem though. There are so
0:44.4	many questions that we forget to ask ourselves or maybe we're too afraid to ask
0:49.2	ourselves. If you're anything like I was, you're so focused on attracting someone that you don't stop to think, but who am I attracted to?
0:58.0	I'm being kind of hard on myself. I think there are benefits in flailing around in hopeless relationships for a while.
1:04.9	It's like the metaphor of the missile. It doesn't follow a straight path. Instead, it veers off course,
1:11.2	continuously adjusting until it reaches its target.
1:15.2	There's one realization that does sting a bit though. It took me far too long to develop
1:20.7	standards beyond looks, and even those were kind of vague. If I considered
1:26.0	standards at all they were about superficial qualities. Coolness, humor, the car someone
1:31.6	drove, their attractiveness.
1:34.0	But for years, I had no standards about how I deserved to be treated.
1:39.0	If I was cheated on, talked down to, or mistreated, I saw it more as a challenge. I felt the need to prove
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