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The Daily Stoic

How to Raise Your Kids Like Seneca Did

The Daily Stoic

Daily Stoic | Backyard Ventures

Education, Business, Ryan Holiday, Society & Culture, Philosophy, Stoicism, 694393, Stoic Philosophy, Daily Stoic, Self-improvement, Stoic

4.55.3K Ratings

🗓️ 12 December 2019

⏱️ 5 minutes

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Summary

Although we know nearly nothing about Seneca’s family life or how his children turned out, we know at least that he gave good advice. We know that as a wealthy, powerful, and famous man, the deck was stacked against him. These are corrosive, corrupting influences, particularly on children. Yet it was clearly quite important to Seneca to raise a normal kid—and to encourage everyone else to do the same thing. 

Below is some advice from Seneca on parenting:

  • Spur them to conceive of great things for themselves, but curb them from arrogance.
  • Let them enjoy some comforts of wealth without indulging their every whim.
  • Show them how to get up when they fall—don’t pick them right up.
  • Instruct them, don’t just punish them.
  • Praise them, but not excessively.
  • Allow some relaxation without fostering laziness.
  • Reward them when quiet what was denied them when they cried for it.
  • Expose them to good role models.

Seneca understood that parenting is a balancing act. You want your kids to be confident but not obnoxious. To feel special but not entitled. Comfortable but not spoiled. You want them to be happy, but also know how to handle disappointment and rejection. To not have to struggle but know how to overcome. To be self-sufficient, but also know how to be a team player. To be carefree, but also value hard work. 

For us, that means we must always keep in mind the end goal, not just what will make this moment easier for them or for you. Assess each situation and strike a balance so your kid will too.

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0:23.3

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0:35.3

How to raise your kids like Senika did. Though we know nearly nothing about Senika's family life or how his children turned out or how many he had, we know at least that he gave good advice.

0:47.3

We know that as a wealthy, powerful, famous man, the deck was stacked against him. These are corrosive, corrupting influences, particularly on children. Yet it was clearly quite important to Senika to raise a normal kid and to encourage everyone else to do the same.

1:03.3

Here is some advice from Senika on parenting. He said we should spur our children to conceive great things of themselves that also curb them from arrogance.

1:13.3

We should let them enjoy the comforts of wealth without indulging their every whim. We have to show them how to get up when they fall and we can't pick them right up.

1:22.3

We must instruct them, not just punish them. We must praise them but not do so excessively. We must allow them relaxation without fostering laziness and reward them when they are quiet and thoughtful, what we previously denied them when they cried for it.

1:39.3

We must expose them to good role models. Senika understood that parenting is a balancing act. You want your kids to be confident but not obnoxious, to feel special but not entitled, comfortable but not spoiled.

1:52.3

You want them to be happy but also know how to handle disappointment and rejection, to not have to struggle but know how to overcome, to be self-sufficient but also know how to be a team player, to be carefree but also value hard work.

2:08.3

For us that means we must always keep in mind the end goal, not just what will make this moment easier for them and for you and we must assess each situation and strike a balance so your kid will too.

2:22.3

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2:33.3

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