How To Propose (to a Man)
How To! with Mike Pesca
Peach Fish Projects
4.3 • 2K Ratings
🗓️ 7 January 2020
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
Once upon a time, Ashley met a man and fell in love. Now, she's ready to get down on one knee and pop the question. But with so few women proposing to men, she's not sure how to go about it. In this episode of How To!, we bring in Caroline Kitchener, staff writer for The Washington Post's The Lily, to share her own unlikely proposal story. She tells Ashley not to worry about stealing a man's thunder. As for planning the perfect engagement, forget flash mobs and diamond rings — Kitchener says a relationship contract is the first step for a successful marriage.
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| 0:00.0 | He is the one who loves to cook most in our relationship and he's wonderful at it and part of me is like do I propose with a kitchen aid mixer because like because he's wanted one for so long and just hey this is really |
| 0:18.0 | important to me you're really important to me will you marry me with the |
| 0:21.3 | kitchenate stand mixer? |
| 0:34.6 | Welcome to how to I'm Charles Doid and you and I we have been together for a while now and things have been going really well, right? They're getting serious. And so I thought it's about time we talk about making this thing permanent, |
| 0:40.4 | like for the rest of our lives? So I reached out to y'all because I am partnered with this really wonderful man and someday I think I'd like to marry him, but I kind of want to be the one to ask that question, and I just have no idea how to start. |
| 1:00.0 | This is Ashley. |
| 1:02.0 | I am a wardrobe stylist and copywriter and dog mom and plant mom living in North Carolina. |
| 1:10.0 | Ashley met her boyfriend Carter two years ago and their romance has really blossomed since then. |
| 1:17.3 | They share a home and a dog. They've even combined their finances. And so naturally they've started talking about where things go from here. |
| 1:25.6 | So as we are talking about things like money and future stuff, marriage kind of inevitably start to creep its way into that conversation. |
| 1:35.0 | Why is it important to you that you propose rather than him? |
| 1:39.0 | I think it's important to me to be the one to propose or maybe the first one to propose because men typically get to |
| 1:50.0 | drive that conversation a lot. |
| 1:53.2 | And when I was trying to figure out, |
| 1:55.5 | OK, is this a, is proposing to him something |
| 1:58.5 | that I want to do or can do? |
| 2:00.8 | Like if you Google, like women proposing to men, like you don't get a lot of |
| 2:03.8 | really helpful information. |
| 2:04.8 | Ashley's right. In fact, one of Google's top search results for women looking to propose to men is about Leep Day, which is this Irish |
| 2:14.5 | and Scottish tradition where women, and I'm quoting here, have permission to |
| 2:19.0 | propose to men on February 29th. But come on Google, it's 2020. Ashley doesn't need permission. But |
| 2:26.4 | Google also says that in heterosexual relationships, 97% of proposals are still initiated |
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