Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. So I was listening to

Jack Cornfield I don't know if you guys know who that is, in a nutshell, he

studied and brought Buddhism to the West, he's a spiritual teacher, and he used the word fuckface and compassion in the same

sentence and what I love about that is that it makes him human and I want to talk about love and kindness and the power of that practice.

So I think that we associate love and kindness with being a gift that would give someone, right?

So it's like, if I give you love,

I'm giving you something, right? I'm giving you something right I'm giving you the gift it's almost like we are doing something for someone

But I would encourage you to reframe it because love and kindness and I just kind of put them together is it's not that

you're giving someone something it's it's actually what's going to make you free.

I believe that as humans,

our capacity to love, right?

The kind of love that makes mothers lift cars up when their

kids are stuck underneath, that kind of super-powered love, it's rare and because we don't actively practice love and kindness

especially to the people that you know we don't like I think that our heart muscles are very weak and so this idea

of practicing love and kindness you know the power of that I think it's it's really what sets us free and so let me

explain I think that a lot of times we get trapped or stuck I think our

potential is low when we are not, you know, when we're

very selective and we are when we start muting our hearts, when we hold grudges, when we start muting our hearts when we hold grudges when we have resentment

and also not just you know to other people but also to ourselves right and I think

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