How To Overcome Sabotage (LIVE COACHING)
ManTalks Podcast
Connor Beaton
4.8 • 591 Ratings
🗓️ 1 June 2026
⏱️ 56 minutes
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Summary
I sit down with Silvi Carter to explore the roots of self-doubt, emotional intensity, and the feeling of never being enough. Together, we unpack how childhood experiences, fatherhood, and the possibility of ADHD have shaped the way he relates to himself and his own energy.
We discuss why so many men see their natural vitality as a problem to be solved, and how learning to accept that energy can transform self-worth, emotional regulation, and even addictive patterns. This is a powerful conversation about healing, fatherhood, and learning to work with yourself instead of against yourself.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Introduction
01:14 - ADHD, Dopamine, and Emotional Regulation
06:58 - Fatherhood Changes Everything
09:06 - Learning to White-Knuckle Through Life
10:38 - Feeling Like You're Too Much
14:18 - The Help He Never Received
17:37 - What It Feels Like to Be Truly Understood
19:14 - Accepting Support
21:21 - Why Does It Feel So Rare?
23:01 - What I Needed From My Parents
28:07 - The Origins of Self-Doubt and Not Enoughness
34:44 - Containment, Energy, and Childhood Development
36:26 - Negative Relating to Your Own Nature
39:11 - The Volcanic Energy Within
42:41 - Acceptance Before Expression
44:23 - Creating an Outlet for Your Energy
46:10 - Fathering Yourself
49:36 - Dopamine, Self-Worth, and Healthy Energy
53:05 - Final Reflections and Takeaways
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| 0:00.0 | All right, my friend, welcome to the man talk show. How are you doing today? |
| 0:10.7 | I'm good, man. It's great to be here. Likewise. Good to have you here. Tell me a little bit about |
| 0:15.9 | what brings you here. What are you looking to address, to confront, confront to deal with to make sense of yeah i'm |
| 0:23.8 | here to address i think a pretty kind of deep background of self-doubt and self-worth and not enoughness. |
| 0:39.0 | As I enter kind of a phase of life where I've got a new baby, |
| 0:43.4 | I move to a new town, |
| 0:44.9 | I'm starting a new business that I'm investing a bunch of money in |
| 0:47.7 | and kind of have a, |
| 0:50.2 | I guess to me it feels like maybe a track record of screwing stuff up. |
| 0:55.3 | So kind of looking to put some pieces together and kind of just address the self-worth, |
| 1:03.7 | the self-confidence piece. |
| 1:05.3 | I guess with a bit of added context that I kind of just realizing that I very likely have ADHD, which having dug into it a |
| 1:13.4 | little bit, I'm sort of struggling with not seeing it as like a total curse. |
| 1:18.0 | Okay. Say a little bit more about the ADHD part and why you, like what specifically do you |
| 1:26.6 | feel is relevant around the ADHD? Do you go to get a |
| 1:30.2 | diagnosis or is just like a self-research thing? Okay. It's a self-research thing. I read |
| 1:35.9 | Gabbar Monti's book. I've kind of been looking into some other, some resources, getting |
| 1:40.1 | into some Reddit form. So yeah, it's totally self-diagnosis, but it's like for several |
| 1:44.9 | years now I've kind of had some suspicion, like there's maybe some neuro-nontipicality going on |
| 1:51.4 | in me. But I think that the biggest piece isn't so much the focus thing, but it's the relationship |
| 1:57.0 | with dopamine. I've kind of been addicted to just about everything other than fortunately, |
| 2:03.9 | you know, kind of hard drugs. But, uh, and having been deep in self help kind of work for years now, |
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