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Here's how most parents sound, wow, it's beautiful, oh, I love it.

This is the most beautiful drawing I've ever seen, you're so talented.

Those are probably things that you've said to your 4567 or 8 year old when they presented

you their latest Picasso-esque crayon drawing.

And I know that you thought that you were doing good by them by showering them with all

that praise, but you might have unknowingly been screwing them up for life.

You see, praise can build self-esteem and praise can undermine and erode self-esteem.

And it all depends on how you do it.

So today we're going to fix that for you.

And this is how it works in your children as well as in your employees.

Because after all, as adults, we are just big and now hairier children inside.

In traditional cultures all around the world, parents used to actively avoid giving praise.

They worry that too much praise would inflate their ego, that it might make children over

confident and to full of themselves so parents intentionally withheld it.

Just ask your daddy or your granddaddy about their parents.

Well, as you can see, that approach didn't work.

And when those bitter and dysfunctional kids grew up, they started the self-esteem movement

in the late 1970s, which really took hold in the 80s and 90s.

They essentially overcorrected by instructing parents now to lavishly heap as much praise

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