Entitlement. There I said it. I was almost nervous to say that word. I think it's the dirty word in parenting that we all kind of cringe. I can't even tell you how often. I hear parents say, Dr. Becky, just how do I not have an

entitled kid? Please, anything but that. Because I think we see this image of a kid who becomes older

and doesn't really understand how to operate in the world. Kind of doesn't understand that the world

is not for their pleasure,

that the world is hard, the world has bumps, that no one's coming to smooth over those bumps for you.

It's about stepping over them, figuring out how to manage it. And when I think about how much

fear we have around this outcome, it makes me come back to my very

practical, hopeful sense where I think, okay, wait, every parent I know wants to avoid having

entitled kids. Okay, well, I'm pretty sure we can do better than like crossing our fingers

and just saying like, oh, I hope, I hope that doesn't happen.

I believe we have agency here. And so what I want to talk about today is what we can be doing day to day, week to week to week, month to month, to make sure we don't raise kids who are entitled.

I'm Dr. Becky, and this is Good Inside. We'll be back right after this.

So when I talk to parents, there's often huge variety and kind of the top quality they wish

for in their kid. Some people say confident, some people say caring, some people say bold,

and there's almost universal agreement in the number one quality parents don't want their kids to have.

Entitlement.

Over and over I have parents asking me, are there things I can do now so that my kid doesn't become entitled later on?

And the truth is, there are.

And so I wanted to put all of my thoughts down in one place and I created something brand new,

a how to avoid entitlement guide. It's all practical strategies and specific scripts you can use

so you know your kids are building the skills they need and that they are going to avoid that entitled outcome.

It's available within membership.

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