How to Not Drink | Just Melissa

Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban

Melissa Urban

Health & Fitness

4.7 • 1.3K Ratings

🗓️ 21 January 2020

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Summary

In this Just Melissa episode, I’m helping you navigate the questions, peer pressure, and social challenges that may arise when you commit to a sober lifestyle, do a Whole30, or take on an “I’m not drinking right now” experiment. I’ll share how to say no gracefully when offered a drink; how to handle questions like “why aren’t you drinking” or statements like “you’re no fun;” and how to respond to peer pressure in a firm but polite way. I also cover how to adjust your social circle, plan events that aren’t centered around alcohol, and navigate dating while sober—and at the end, I’ll provide the ONE mindset shift you’ll need to effectively hold this self-care boundary. Continue the conversation with me @melissau on Instagram. If you have a question for Dear Melissa or a topic idea for the show, leave me a voicemail at (321) 209-1480. Do the Thing is part of ‘The Onward Project,’ a family of podcasts brought together by Gretchen Rubin—all about how to make your life better. Check out the other Onward Project podcasts—Happier with Gretchen Rubin, Side Hustle School, and Happier in Hollywood. If you liked this episode, please subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and tell your friends to Do the Thing!Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hi, my name is Melissa Urban, and you're listening to Do The Thing, a
0:07.7	podcast where we explore what's been missing every time you've tried to make a change and make it stick.
0:14.0	We are in the middle of the January Whole 30 and a bunch of you are doing dry January where you give up alcohol for 30 days.
0:29.0	But even more than that, the sobriety movement is having a moment, a well-deserved long overdue moment.
0:38.1	Books like Holly Whitaker's Quit Like a Woman and Laura McCowns, We Are The Luckiest, are talking about what it's like to take your life back.
0:47.0	Or at the very least, imagine what your life could be like without alcohol.
0:51.5	So many of you are sober curious and ready and eager to
0:55.4	examine your relationship with alcohol, but it's not as easy as it sounds as
1:00.2	many of you doing the Whole 30 right now are realizing.
1:03.2	You'd think it would just be as simple as not drinking for a month,
1:06.5	but peer pressure, overt, or subtle,
1:09.2	being made to feel awkward or othered in social situations from family, friends or coworkers, and most
1:16.2	important the reactions you get just by drinking water are all challenges that you might have to face when you say no to that glass of wine or beer.
1:26.0	I've been talking about my own I'm not drinking right now experiment on the podcast and on
1:30.8	Instagram for the better part of 17 months. It started in
1:34.8	September 2018 when I decided I wouldn't drink for a month and it's just rolled
1:40.1	on since then. I've shared in a podcast the benefits that have come with rolled on
1:45.0	Instagram since then. I've shared in a podcast the benefits that have come with just not drinking right now,
1:46.7	and I've helped a number of you on Instagram through DM,
1:50.3	through stories, through an Instagram live, navigate the same challenges that I faced when I
1:56.3	decided to start saying no. Actually I didn't face a lot of these challenges
2:00.5	that's a lie. I've actually had a really easy time of it in part because most of my friends are very health focused. A lot of them already don't drink for health reasons or fitness reasons and I don't really have a hard time holding my boundaries.
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