How To Move Past Your Toxic Ex

How To! with Mike Pesca

Peach Fish Projects

How To, Education

4.3 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 11 June 2024

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

After Lin met Dave, their lives quickly became entangled. Lin joined Dave's small business, made much-needed improvements, and charmed Dave's family. The two also began a romantic relationship that lasted years. When it fizzled, Lin continued working at the company—and eventually uncovered Dave's lies, deceit, and infidelity. On this episode of How To!: Carvell Wallace welcomes Nina Renata Aron, author of Good Morning, Destroyer of Men's Souls, to share her own experience exiting a toxic, codependent relationship and explain how she came to terms with it.

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0:30.4	I'm like, oh my God, like, please help. Like, I wonder if anybody else is going through this.
0:35.0	Like, am I wrong for feeling this? Like, I literally, I mean, honestly, this person, the way they were communicating with me
0:40.8	had me feeling that I was crazy.
0:47.2	Welcome to how to, the show where people call in with their toughest questions and we find
0:51.6	the perfect expert to give them guidance.
0:54.1	I'm Carvel Wallace.
0:56.0	So I will not be the first person, nor will I be the last, to make the observation that intimate relationships can be, um, let's say messy.
1:04.0	I mean, sometimes the messiest ones are those that span years or even decades.
1:09.0	They might be on again or off again or they have hurt and then
1:13.1	forgiveness and then more hurt. And if you throw in addiction and abuse and maybe other toxic
1:19.6	elements into the mix, what we thought was a loving relationship might turn out to be something
1:24.4	else entirely. It's hard or at least it can be hard, to get
1:29.9	out of a relationship like that. Like you still love the person or you think you do, and maybe it was
1:35.6	like your fault a little bit. And maybe if you stay, you can now figure out how to do it right,
1:40.0	how to love them into behaving better. But even then, it's hard to know what comes next if you do
1:45.7	leave. Maybe this relationship wasn't as bad as you thought it was. Maybe this was as good as it could
1:51.0	get. And maybe if you leave, you'll be consumed with resentment and regrets and grief. And maybe it's
1:58.5	just been too long. Maybe this relationship is going to be stuck with you forever.
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