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Okay, you guys heard the episode on Monday. I have Michelle, Dempsey Multak. She is incredible.

She has a book, bestselling book mom, moving on, a podcast mom's moving on.

She is a certified divorce specialist and coach. She is the one who will get you through your divorce and teach you how to have a healthy perspective,

how to actually not hate your ex and maybe even co-parent in an amazing way.

You have, you're from a divorced childhood, you are divorced and you are a stepmother.

You see it from every perspective and you have figured out how to rise up in this situation and make it something that can be a beautiful transformation.

So I am so happy to have you back and we are going to do a quick how to episode of how to help your kids transition between homes.

Yes, yeah, that's a big one. You know, we, we go through this legal process and we're like, okay, 50% for me, 50% for you, treating our kids like library books that have to be like borrowed and returned and that does not feel good for the kids.

And I can tell you that when we are coming to transition time when we got to get Charlie ready to go to dads or moms or whatever and you're just like going through the motions and you're stressed out about it and you just want to get this over with.

Because you know it's going to suck your children are going to feel that and you really have to put energy and effort.

If you want to make this transition easy on them and not have them feel like property to be divided in your collateral damage of divorce, you have to really create a plan that works for your children.

You have to know what works best for them. So if you're still in like the parenting plan stages of putting this together, take a step back to think about what would make the most sense for transitions for your kids.

Would it be healthy for them to just have the other parent pick them up from school at the start of their co parenting time.

I tend to find that this is easiest for children because if you have young children, let's say you pick your child up from school, you give them a snack, you do a little homework or if they don't have homework yet, they're playing with their favorite toy and you're like, okay, let's go.

Gotta go to daddies. There's going to be a negative kind of patient associated with going to daddies because now you're pulling your child away from their favorite thing or they were already comfortable and now they're tired.

I don't like that for a lot of kids, but maybe you have a kid that's like, okay, cool, whatever, take me where you want to go. You have to know your child.

And then for all kids, regardless of their personality, I always suggest that you take, if they're not going to be picked up at school by the other parent, you take your child to the other parent's home at the start of their co parenting time instead of having that parent come pick them up at your house because it can feel like they're being removed versus let's go together to daddies house and the child feels more in control and the child can decide when they want to stop playing with their toy so that they can go to daddies.

The other thing I would say is if your child is sad about leaving you, you don't want to align with them and say, I know I'm so sad when you're not with me because then they feel responsible for you.

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