How to Matter to the People Who Matter Most | EP 705 w/ John R. Miles

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4.9 • 1.3K Ratings

🗓️ 19 December 2025

⏱️ 27 minutes

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Summary

What if the most profound regret we carry isn’t about what we did, but about the quiet ways we slowly drifted from the people we love most?

In this heartfelt solo episode of Passion Struck, Episode 705, John R. Miles explores why the greatest gift we can give those who matter most isn’t more time, more gifts, or even more love, but simple, undivided presence.

Drawing from personal holiday memories and the psychology of “relational mattering,” John reveals how relationships rarely break from conflict; they thin from absence disguised as normal life. He unpacks the quiet cost of diluted attention, the profound beauty of what becomes possible when presence returns, and why showing up fully may be the most important decision we ever make.

If you’ve ever felt the subtle distance growing in a relationship you cherish, or wondered how to rebuild the felt sense of mattering during this holiday season, this episode is your gentle wake-up call.

You’re not out of chances. You’re one intentional arrival away. Listen. Feel. Become present.

Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/relational-mattering-how-to-matter-to-others/

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The Season of Becoming Workbook: Rebuild Relational Mattering

Reflection questions + small presence practices to start tonight + prompts to notice where mattering is calling you most

→ Download the free Companion Workbook at https://www.theignitedlife.net/p/relational-mattering-7-ways-to-fix-relationships

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0:53.7	Visit us at plural site.com to tap in and learn more. Coming up next on Passionstruck, the people who matter most to us will not remember how busy we were.
1:01.5	They will remember how we made them feel when it mattered.
1:05.5	When we were there, when we were reachable, whether they felt seen in the moments that counted most.
1:12.0	Right now, many relationships are not breaking.
1:15.1	They're thinning.
1:16.0	Not from conflict, not from lack of love, but from the absence disguised as normal life.
1:22.6	Today's episode is about why how you show up for the people who matter most,
1:29.5	maybe the most important decision you make, and why you don't get unlimited chances to make it right.
1:34.8	Welcome to Passionstruck. I'm your host, John Miles. This is the show where we explore
1:40.0	the art of human flourishing and what it truly means to live like it matters.
1:44.8	Each week, I sit down with change makers, creators, scientists, and everyday heroes to decode the
1:50.5	human experience and uncover the tools that help us lead with meaning, heal what hurts,
1:55.7	and pursue the fullest expression for who we're capable of becoming. Whether you're designing
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