How To Master Your Emotions with Jay Shetty

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🗓️ 18 December 2025

⏱️ 77 minutes

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Summary

If you’ve ever wondered why you settle, sabotage, or shut down.. this episode tells you the truth.

Today on Almost Adulting, Violetta is joined by Jay Shetty - New York Times best-selling author, host of On Purpose, former monk, and one of the most influential voices in self-improvement, emotional healing, and modern spirituality.

In this powerful conversation, Jay and Violetta dive into:

the limits we place on ourselves (and each other)
fear as an unformed boundary
why timelines sabotage our growth
the real meaning of love (beyond romance)
how to build connection through vulnerability
and how to rewrite the beliefs holding you back

If you’re craving clarity, emotional growth, deeper love, or a fresh start, this is an episode worth revisiting. Some conversations deserve a second life. and don't forget to leave me a 5 star review on the apple podcast app when you're done listening!!!!

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:

• 00:00 Intro

• 02:15 The journey that took 10 years

• 05:08 Deadlines vs. destiny

• 06:13 Worst advice Jay ever received

• 07:52 “We project our limits onto other people.”

• 10:46 The three cancers of the mind

• 12:45 How to change your feelings

• 16:23 Best advice Jay ever received

• 21:36 Why beginners should move fast

• 28:19 The two lies we tell ourselves

• 33:35 What unforgiveness does to you

• 36:13 Different forms of love

• 38:46 Is unconditional love real?

• 41:26 Loving as a skill

• 46:16 Fear as an unformed boundary

• 50:05 The power of being alone

• 53:08 Win or lose together

• 58:52 What it really takes to make love work

• 01:03:41 The 8 Rules of Love

• 01:06:19 The myth of perfection

• 01:08:35 Connect with the people who want you

AND THAT IS ALL FOR 2025!!! WE WILL BE BACK IN 2026!! <3

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0:00.0	I think in love and relationships, we often ask the wrong questions. Like, are they the right person?
0:07.8	Are they right for me? Is there someone else? And I think those questions have unlimited answers
0:14.8	and they're not the right questions because I don't think it's about whether someone's right for you. It's whether
0:23.2	you both want to make it right. Like there is no perfect person. There is no perfect partner.
0:29.9	There's only the person that wants to make it work with you and the person you want to make it
0:34.3	work with. And if someone doesn't want to make it work with you,
0:41.4	it doesn't matter how perfect you think they are. It's not going to work.
0:46.3	It's Vila Benson, your favorite meme queen and the big sit you didn't ask for, but see,
0:54.6	welcome to almost adulting. Are you ready?
1:03.5	Hi, besties, and welcome to a brand new almost adulting, the largest self-love podcast and movement, your number one destination for personal growth and mental health.
1:05.6	I'm your big sister and your host, Violetta.
1:07.5	Today's guest is Jay Shetty.
1:11.5	He is the number one New York Times bestselling author of the books, Think Like a Monk,
1:17.2	and his newest one, which we'll discuss today, A Rules of Love. He's also the host of the award-winning podcast on purpose and chief purpose officer of calm. Welcome.
1:22.3	Hey, thank you so much for having me. It's so nice to be in your home. I appreciate it.
1:25.5	Thank you for being so welcoming and gracious. Yeah, and I also love that your eyes match your shirt. It looks really good. Oh, thank you. I appreciate that. Did you know only 2% of people in the world have green eyes? I did not know that. Is that true? Are you joking? I genuinely did not know that. Oh, I just assume anyone would agree not. part of the 2%. Yeah, my wife.
1:45.4	Oh, your wife.
1:46.1	Okay.
1:46.3	Annie, do you have green eyes too?
1:47.9	Thank God, okay.
1:49.1	Then it just seemed like everyone has green eyes.
1:51.1	That's so funny.
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