how to master detachment and truly let go of something that you just can't fucking let go of.

How do you do this? How do you just drop this person that was the love of your life

for a year, for three years, five years, maybe you were married with kids?

How do you just let go and pick up the pieces and move on like nothing happened? Well,

the truth is healing takes time. And that's the first point I want to make in this episode because

it doesn't happen overnight. It's not an overnight fix where, you know, one day

you can be grieving someone and you wake up the next day and it's all gone.

There's going to be a grieving process because if you had someone in your life for a very significant period of time,

there's going to be a period of time where you need to heal. And that's okay, because

we all go through it and it's human and it's normal. And this is what life is all about, you know.

So before I get into today's episode, I want to make a point of saying detachment doesn't mean you don't care.

It doesn't mean that you don't love this person anymore. It doesn't mean that, you know,

you're completely over it and you don't even think about this person ever again. That's not what it means.

Detachment is just simply about not letting the actions and behaviors of other people

and their decisions and how they affect you to cause you to suffer so greatly. Because when

you're really clinging on to something that isn't working anymore, it can destroy your life.

It can really hurt. It could be extremely, extremely painful. You cannot hand over your power to

someone else. You can't depend on someone as your source of happiness. This rush of dopamine

every single time that they text you back or they tell you they love you. You can't depend on

that as your main source of self-love and happiness because once you do that, if they were to leave or

if you need to separate and you can't see this person ever again, you're going to fall and crumble

into a depression. And this has happened to me on several occasions where I put my happiness in

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