How to Make the Most of Your 20s with Dr. Meg Jay

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.4K Ratings

🗓️ 8 April 2024

⏱️ 79 minutes

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Summary

Twentysomethings are bombarded with misinformation, hype, and contradictory messages that pull them in many different directions. Dr. Meg Jay, a specialist on what she calls the “defining decade,” joins Forrest to explore how we can navigate this transformative and often anxiety-provoking time in our lives. They discuss the biggest misunderstandings about our 20s, balancing having fun with setting yourself up for the future, and common mental health issues. Topics include the pitfalls of self-diagnosis, creating a strong self-concept and building identity capital, dealing with burnout, strengthening our relationships, and more. About our Guest: Dr. Meg Jay is a developmental clinical psychologist who specializes in twentysomethings. She is on faculty at the University of Virginia, and is the author of a number of wonderful books, including The Defining Decade and her new book The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:20: The biggest misunderstanding about life in your 20s 4:55: Uncertainty, and becoming confident in our abilities 8:30: Nihilism about the current state of the world 14:50: Self-diagnosis, social media, and over medication 23:25: The “strength of weak ties” 27:20: Self-concept and identity capital 30:30: What helps people take action 34:15: Navigating avoidance and anxiety 41:55: Finding evidence that you’re capable of being loved 46:35: What to do you when you feel stuck 49:20: How to choose purpose 58:55: Advice to people who feel like they messed up their 20s 1:04:45: Recap Offer from Dr. Rick: If you'd like to improve your self-worth, check out Rick's new 4-hour, live online workshop. You'll learn methods and practices that can actually change your brain and your habits, so you start nurturing your sense of worth and belonging. Our listeners can get 20% off with coupon code BeingWell20: https://selfworthworkshop.com/ Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there. Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need, and deliver the type of experience you want. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Trust your gut with Seed’s DS-01 Daily Synbiotic. Go to Seed.com/BEINGWELL and use code 25BEINGWELL to get 25% off your first month. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello and if you're new to the show,
0:02.0	and welcome to being well, I'm Forrest Hansen.
0:07.0	If you're new to the show,
0:11.0	thanks for listening today.
0:12.0	And if you've listened before, welcome back. If you're new to the show, thanks for listening today.
0:12.6	And if you've listened before, welcome back.
0:14.9	My guest today is Dr. Meg Jay, a developmental clinical psychologist who specializes in 20-somethings.
0:21.2	She's on faculty at the University of Virginia and is the author of a number of
0:25.3	wonderful books including The Defining Decade, Why Your 20s Matter, and
0:29.4	how to make the most of them now and her new book the 20-something treatment a revolutionary remedy for an uncertain age so make
0:37.6	thanks for doing this with me today how are you oh it's it's my pleasure I'm thrilled to be. I'm a big fan of the podcast actually.
0:44.0	Oh, thank you. Well, I really appreciate that. And I'm happy to talk to you.
0:48.6	We actually just recorded an episode that's on the things that we wish we knew when we were 20.
0:54.0	Well I heard that you had recorded it. Yes, yes. I'm ready to talk about it.
0:58.5	Awesome. Yeah, I was in the process of that that I bumped into your work and particularly your TED Talk which
1:04.6	why 30 is not the new 20 is what it was titled that totally blew up it's become a
1:09.4	very very listen to TED Talk and it was just so helpful for me as a 36 year old person to like put that decade of time into context and also I probably want to be a parent at some point and so helping somebody else through that moment in time and I was wondering just to start with what do you think the biggest
1:25.5	misunderstanding is about our 20s? Yeah well I love that you said putting it
1:31.0	in context because that's really what my work is all about so that the new book that you know
1:37.0	said putting it in context because that's really what my work is all about so that the new
1:34.6	book the 20-something treatment you know subtitle starts a revolutionary remedy blah
1:39.2	blah blah and the revolutionary remedy is is it puts mental health in context in the context of
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