Hi, I'm Jimmy Evans. This is my wife Karen. We welcome you today to the marriage today podcast. We're talking about marriage and we're we exist to help every couple thrive in their marriage relationship.

We're talking now in this series of programs on marriage on the rock. This was the first book that I ever wrote the first marriage conference I ever did was marriage on the rock.

We're talking about the four foundational laws of marriage critical. This is what saved our marriage. This is today. This is the foundation of our marriage relationship is specifically in this program. We're talking about the first law of marriage, which is the law of priority marriage has to be first.

We're going to go to that teaching in just a minute, but we're going to begin caring with some questions from our viewers.

This one asked my husband is always on social media are reading news articles. I even have to ask him to put the phone down when we talk. I've told him this bothers me, but nothing changes.

Yeah, you need to go to counseling. You really do. I mean, I think that she's technology is a wonderful servant. It's a terrible master and people get addicted to it. Her husband is addicted to it.

And so when you're always when something's always in front of you, it violates the law of priority. The law of priority God said for this cause of man will leave his father and mother and cleave into his wife. You leave you have to there has to be a reprioritizing.

Leaving your parents doesn't mean you abuse them or forsake him. It just means they're not personally longer.

And so when your spouse sits down with you and they're trying to connect connection is essential in research finds the harder it is for couples to connect the higher their divorce rate goes up.

So she's sitting there trying to connect to him. He won't connect. He's, I mean, first of all, is there, is he mad at you?

You know, is there an angry issue there? Is he being passive aggressive? And so I think that that I would say to your husband, let's go get marriage counseling because there's something wrong.

And I had a, I had a couple that came to me, really good couple, really nice Christian couple. And they came to me for counseling and hurt and this is years ago when the blackberries were big.

And she says he's always on this blackberry. He never gets off of the blackberry. And this is a very successful businessman. So we're sitting there talking about it and counseling and he gets on his blackberry.

And we're sitting there talking and we look over and he's doing like this on the blackberry. And I said to him, do you even realize what you're doing? And he said what?

And I said, you are rejecting your wife. He said, I'm not rejecting my wife. And I said, do you feel rejected? And she said totally. And he got it. I mean, it's like a light one on. And he understood, I don't mean to be rejecting her, but it is rejection when you're trying to connect to somebody and they won't connect to you.

This is a question for you, Karen. My husband is in ministry and he's always working. I am resentful because his good intentions are keeping him away from our family. What can I do to change this?

Well, we went through this to, you know, we're first married because you're young. We're both young and like you like to say in your sermons, you know, you had a fear of failure that you were going to fail. And so, you know, you're, you were really a hard worker.

You've always been a hard worker, even a scrub a dead car wash. And so, but, you know, and so because of that fear of failing, you put yourself in 150% and you have a young family at home and a wife and, and we're so young.

And so I just think this is something like you just said from the last question, they probably need to get some counsel.

Because that's what helped us, you know, I, you know, I, I'm always a big believer, especially in ministry families, you know, don't let things stay hidden, you know, because there's help for everybody and everybody needs help, whether you're a minister or not.

And so, you know, find some find somebody in the church and elder or another senior pastor, somebody that can, you know, you can confide in and say, you know, I'm just worried about, you know, the workload and him not having time for the family. And I think that would be, that would be good.

Yeah, absolutely. And I'm going to tell the story actually in this teaching about when I was a young pastor and you were complaining rightly complaining about me working all the time.

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