Hi everybody. This is Amber from the Women's Dating and Confidence podcast, and today I want to talk to you

about how to sell him on the idea of a relationship with you.

So recently I was thinking about the number one thing that you guys, the listeners,

reach out to me for in regards to advice, the number one thing that my coaching clients ask me about and the number one thing that I hear from my friends, which is, why do guys not want

commitment? Why don't they want a relationship? Why are they always looking for hookups? And are

there even guys out there who want to get married, who want to be in a serious relationship,

who want something real? And I find it really fascinating because I also have male clients.

I also have male friends.

And I also have male listeners on this podcast.

And something isn't right.

Something does not match up because I speak to men about this all the time.

And I would say most of the men that I speak to are looking for a relationship or at least

open to that.

Like, yeah, I'm dating.

Like maybe there's no pressure, but that is what I want.

And so there's a mismatch between so many women telling me that

guys just don't want that versus the reality of all the men that I'm talking to that are telling me

that that's exactly what they're looking for. So that tells me that it's not actually the case that men just don't want that, but there's

something missing in our ability to entice them into wanting it with us specifically, and at this

time specifically. So that's where selling him on the idea of a relationship comes in. And so when we hear the word

selling, a lot of us can be like, yuck. Like that sounds awful. It sounds like proving myself and trying

really hard and manipulating and all of those things that we've come to associate with selling. But the best definition that I ever

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