How to Make Great Relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson
The One You Feed
Eric Zimmer
4.6 • 2.5K Ratings
🗓️ 20 January 2023
⏱️ 78 minutes
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Summary
In this Episode, You Will Learn...
- The fundamental quality of recognizing the good in and having compassion for ourselves and how it's foundational in how we show up in relationships
- Recognizing tension in relationships and developing practices to help you determine what to do or say and when
- Asking yourself to choose harmony or truth in conflicts and how if you routinely choose one, you can end up with neither.
- Why it's important to admit fault and how it's a strength, not a weakness
- Using wise speech is about how we say something and it can have more impact than what we say
- The useful strategy of making small agreements that can improve larger issues in a relationship
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| 0:00.0 | Where we repeatedly dwell, for better or worse, becomes what dwells within us, |
| 0:05.2 | because neurons that fire together, wire together, especially negatively, because the brain's |
| 0:10.8 | negatively biased, as you know. It's like Velcro for bad experiences, but Teflon for good ones. |
| 0:24.0 | Welcome to the One You Feed. Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance |
| 0:29.1 | of the thoughts we have, quotes like garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think, |
| 0:35.1 | ring true, and yet for many of us, our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. We tend toward |
| 0:41.2 | negativity, self-pity, jealousy, or fear. We see what we don't have, instead of what we do, |
| 0:48.1 | we think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit. But it's not just about thinking, |
| 0:53.6 | our actions matter. It takes conscious, consistent, and creative effort to make a life worth living. |
| 0:59.9 | This podcast is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction, |
| 1:04.3 | how they feed their good wolf. |
| 1:09.5 | In 1968, five black girls were picked up by police after running away from a reform school |
| 1:26.0 | in Mount Meg's Alabama. I'm writer and reporter Josie Defi Rice, and in a new podcast, |
| 1:31.4 | I investigate the abuse that thousands of black children suffered at the Alabama industrial |
| 1:36.9 | school for Negro children, and how those five girls changed everything. |
| 1:42.5 | Listen to unreformed on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. |
| 1:50.4 | Thanks for joining us. Our guest on this episode is Dr. Rick Hanson, a guest who's been on |
| 1:55.2 | numerous times. He's a senior fellow at UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, |
| 1:59.9 | in an expert on positive neuroplasticity. Rick's work has been featured on CBS, NPR, BBC, |
| 2:05.7 | and all the other major platforms, and he is a New York Times bestselling author. His six books |
| 2:10.6 | have been published in 30 languages. Today, Eric and Rick discuss his new book, |
| 2:15.1 | Making Great Relationships, Simple Practices for Solving Conflicts, Building Connection, |
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