How To Make Adult Friendships Easier with Kat Vellos

Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self Love Podcast for Women

Mary Jelkovsky

Self-love, Body-image, Mental Health, Body Image, Relationships, Women's Health, Self Love, Advice For Women, Self Love For Women, Love Yourself, Education, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.8 • 721 Ratings

🗓️ 30 January 2025

⏱️ 41 minutes

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If making friends feels hard, then this episode is for you. You will learn... - why making friends as an adult feels hard - exactly WHERE you’ll find your people - how to make friends who live close to you - actionable tips to help you find, keep, and strengthen your friendships Our guest, Kat Vellos, is a trusted expert on the power of cultivating meaningful friendships. She’s a speaker and author of the book, We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships. She’s also the creator of the Better than Small Talk conversation cards and the Better Conversations Calendar. Her work helps people transform disconnection and platonic longing into authentic connection and belonging. In her former career as a user experience designer at Slack and Pandora, she helped millions of people find music they love and enjoy work a lot more. While working full-time at both of those iconic companies, Kat spent her free time researching and writing her debut book We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships. She couldn’t stop herself from writing this book because the thirty-something friendship desert is real and she refused to take “how about we meet up in six weeks?” for an answer. So she used her UX research-n-design superpowers to explore the question “how might we design a better experience of adult friendship and simultaneously put a sizable dent in the loneliness epidemic?” Thousands of readers use her book to improve their friendships every day and her writing is read in over 100 countries. She’s been interviewed by The New York Times, NPR, Communication Arts, The Good Life Project, and many more. Sign up for Kat’s newsletter here and check out her course, Platonic Action Lab. And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast Mentioned In This Episode... How Long Til’ Black Future Month? by N.K. JemisinEp. 195 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: The Most Underrated EmotionWhat if friendship is easier than you think?

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0:00.0	Welcome to Mary's Cup of Tea, the self-love podcast for women, though all self-lovers are welcome here.
0:06.7	I'm your host, Mary Jolkovsky. I'm an author, speaker, retreat leader, and all-around self-love advocate.
0:14.0	And this is the podcast that will inspire you to love yourself.
0:19.7	If making friends feels hard, then this episode is for you. And trust me,
0:25.2	you're not alone. I recently went through a friend separation myself and I'm still processing
0:31.4	that and trying to put myself out there to meet new people. But going from, you know, meeting each other is one thing,
0:40.1	but to have that like deep soul nourishing friendship that I so crave, well, that can be
0:48.0	difficult. So there's a lot of touch points along the way that we can get better at when it comes to
0:53.6	finding, making, or even
0:56.4	keeping friends, which is why I invited Kat Velos on the show. She is a friendship expert.
1:03.9	And today we talk about why making friends as an adult feels hard, exactly where you can find
1:10.2	your people. Kat gives some great ideas here, how to make
1:13.7	friends who live close to you, and actionable tips to help you find, keep, and strengthen your
1:19.5	friendships. Like I said, our guest Kat Velos is a trusted expert on the power of cultivating
1:24.2	meaningful friendships. She's a speaker and author of the book, We Should Get
1:27.9	Together, The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships. She's also the creator of the Better
1:32.3	Than Small Talk Conversation cards and the Better Conversations calendar. Her work helps people
1:37.0	transform disconnection and platonic longing, oh, I have that platonic longing, into authentic
1:43.1	connection and belonging.
1:45.3	In her former career as a user experience designer at Slack and Pandora,
1:50.2	she helped millions of people find music they love and enjoy work a lot more.
1:54.5	While working full-time at both of these iconic companies,
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