Coming to you from the Center for Social Confidence in Portland, Oregon,

welcome to Shrink for the Shy Guy,

helping men everywhere go from social anxiety to social domination.

With your host, Dr. Aziz.

Hey, welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy.

I'm Dr. Aziz, and today's episode is all about love.

Yes, as Dean says, you are nobody until somebody loves you. And those are pretty powerful words,

pretty true in a lot of ways, I believe, especially the part about gold, not bringing you the happiness

that you seek, but it really comes from those connections, those relationships. And this is

something that's verified not only throughout time and philosophy and psychology, but also

in interviews with people on their deathbeds. They tend to focus on not their career successes,

how much money they earned, or even their exotic travels,

but instead they focus on their connections, their wives, their partners, their husbands, their children,

their grandchildren, who they connected with, who they impacted, who they touched in their lives.

And I believe it's the same for all of us, although we can get wrapped up in other things.

And so that statement of your nobody until somebody loves you is very profound, very true.

But sometimes we hear that and we're like, oh, God, I'm single. I'm a loser.

And that's not the direction that I want to go with this today.

I want to take those exact same words and change the meaning slightly. You're nobody until somebody loves you.

And the question that I want to ask you is, do you love you? Do you love yourself?

And this is a very powerful question. This is one of the most important inquiries I believe we can make. Because if you do not love yourself, and I say that,

and it sort of makes it sound black or white, right, like all enough you either love yourself or you

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