How To Love and Be Loved | Part 3: Developing Empathy for Yourself and Others #234
The Brian Buffini Show
Brian Buffini
4.8 • 2.4K Ratings
🗓️ 13 August 2020
⏱️ 42 minutes
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Summary
“Empathy is part of our human nature. It's the capacity to feel what other people are feeling. It's what separates animals from human beings. It's part of our nature; but it also has to be nurtured.” – Joe Ehrmann
If we don't address the wounds that we experience in life, we will go on to similarly wound others. In this episode, the third in a special series of six, Brian and Joe Ehrmann discuss why developing empathy for ourselves and others is a crucial step in helping us to understand and move forward from the hurts of the past. Topics discussed include why we often build rigid defense mechanisms and destructive life patterns to cover our wounds, how we can transform these patterns and become wounded healers and what role faith takes in this journey.
YOU WILL LEARN:
- How a lack of empathy manifests in society.
- The differences between positive and negative empathy.
- Why journaling helps to make sense of the journey to healing.
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INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE:
“If we don't enter into the woundedness of ourselves; if we don't identify and name our own life patterns; if we don't see the destructive behaviors that come out of that woundedness, we become the wounders.” – Joe Ehrmann
“We take the people we love, the people we want to be invested in and that we care about, and we can't help but wound them because we haven't addressed our own woundedness.” – Joe Ehrmann
“You have to take that first step of entering those wounds with a sense of empathy.” – Joe Ehrmann
“One of the missing pieces in America is a lack of empathy. We do victim blaming, we have apathy and indifference. But we've got to learn how to develop positive empathy for people, their situations and, particularly, for ourselves.” – Joe Ehrmann
“They always say the most competitive sport in America is parenting.” – Joe Ehrmann
“You've got to take those wounds from your past and heal them so you can move forward.” – Joe Ehrmann
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Brian Bafini show, where we explore the mindsets, motivation and methodologies |
| 0:21.6 | of success. |
| 0:22.6 | I'm the producer David Lally, and today I bring you part three of How to Love and Be Loved. |
| 0:28.4 | In this episode, Brian and Joe Irman talk about developing empathy for yourself and for |
| 0:33.1 | others. |
| 0:34.1 | Joe will explain the difference between positive and negative empathy and give us a systematic |
| 0:38.6 | approach for developing more positive empathy for yourself and for others. |
| 0:43.2 | And now, once again, here's Brian and Joe. |
| 0:50.1 | Now as we discussed in our last program, there are the three wounds of love. |
| 0:55.1 | And those three wounds have consequences in our life today. |
| 0:59.3 | Many of us have made choices in regards to our life. |
| 1:02.2 | Some of us have built a rigid defense mechanism to cover over these hurts of the past. |
| 1:08.2 | Many of us have developed destructive life patterns or made choices in our life that we regret. |
| 1:14.1 | Everybody listening right now has things in their life, choices they've made that have |
| 1:18.5 | embarrassed them, that they feel shame over or that they regret making. |
| 1:23.1 | Here in the midst of a life pattern right now that constantly is repeating itself and repeating |
| 1:27.2 | itself. |
| 1:28.5 | And the opportunity to heal that life pattern and change that life pattern is to find healing |
| 1:33.1 | for the wounds of the past. |
| 1:34.8 | Joe, maybe you could address a little bit about life's patterns and ultimately how we can |
| 1:38.7 | develop empathy for those life's patterns. |
| 1:41.5 | Well let me illustrate the destructive behaviors that come out of that woundiness, those three |
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