It can be hard nowadays to find a space where we're able to listen to each other, where we can agree to disagree.

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Hey everybody, it's Mary L. Okay, so what I'm about to admit, I'm not saying I'm proud of it, but I'm not not proud of it.

When I was a bit younger in one of my early roommate situations. I had a roommate who

would constantly forget to pay me back for shared expenses and I tried telling her

but things never changed. So I started using her shampoo. I told myself I was going to

recoup my losses one hair wash at a time. I mean yeah okay passive aggressive but

it did make me feel better.

The truth is living with other people, sometimes it just gets under your skin.

You know, it's the way they do dishes, or don't do dishes.

It's the heavy-handed rules they've imposed. Like the toothpaste tube

must go in the cabinet, not on the sink. A little bit inflexible, if you ask me. But we're all different

and we have different standards of cleanliness and ideas of how we want our homes to feel.

I should say having roommates can also be a blessing, not just with on Sundays. The point is though if you're going to have roommates you want to try

to be on the same page as much as possible and to figure out your needs and boundaries

before you sign that lease or move in together.

On this episode of Life Kit, NPR's education desk producer Janet Ujung Lee

is going to walk us through how to do all that

to come up with your non-negotiables

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