How To Limit Your Roles In Relationships & Let Go Of Bitter Giving with Laura Tremaine

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🗓️ 18 October 2024

⏱️ 82 minutes

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To wrap up this focus on doing too much and how we run ourselves ragged, I’m looking at our relationships, from family to friends and in our work, with a focus on how we tend to be all things for all people and we do a disservice to ourselves and others. So I’m sharing a show I did with Laura Tremaine. Laura is host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. Laura worked in film and television production for many years at MTV, VH1, Fox, and Paramount Pictures before pursuing writing full time. She writes primarily to women about friendship, anxiety, motherhood, and marriage. But her book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, got my attention a couple years ago and I refer to it often. She focused on the niche for women but I resonated completely as a guy. In it she profiles different friend styles and the benefit of having friends for specific needs. It hit a chord for me as I had become concerned with our growing cultural isolation and tendency to look at one friend or family member or our spouse to fulfill all our relational needs. And conversely, how others will look to us to fulfill all their relational needs. And we can’t. And we shouldn’t. And we not only end up doing too much, but fulfilling roles in the relationships in our lives that drain us and aren’t even serving those we care about that well. I think you’ll get great value from this talk with Laura Tremaine as you address you may be doing too much in your life. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to what drives you. I'm Kevin Miller in this episode how to limit your roles in
0:06.8	relationships and let go of bitter giving. To wrap up this focus on doing too much and how we run ourselves ragged, I'm looking
0:17.4	at our relationships from family to friends and in our work with a focus on how we tend to be all things, try to be all things to all people, and
0:25.8	we do a disservice to ourselves and others.
0:29.4	So I'm sharing a show that I did with Laura Tremain.
0:34.0	Laura is host of the 10 Things to Tell You podcast
0:38.6	and author of a few books.
0:40.5	One is share your stuff.
0:42.4	I'll go first. And another one I'll tell you about just a second.
0:45.6	Laura worked in film, television production for many years at MTV, VH1, Fox, Paramount Pictures,
0:52.0	before pursuing full-time writing.
0:55.8	And she writes primarily to women about friendships, anxiety, motherhood, and marriage,
0:59.4	but she's got this book called The Life Council. 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, and it got my attention a couple
1:06.7	years ago and I refer to it so often and it's relevant to this focus on too much.
1:12.3	She focused on this inch of women,
1:14.0	but I resonated completely as a guy.
1:16.5	And in it she profiles different friend styles
1:20.0	and the benefit of having friends for specific needs and I'm going to call them specific roles.
1:26.0	And again it hit a chord for me as I had become concerned with this growing cultural isolation and then the tendency from that to look at just one friend or
1:34.1	family member your spouse to fulfill all your relational needs. That by proxy has
1:40.0	us doing too much and you know how others then look to us the same way they
1:45.4	looking to us to fulfill all their relational needs and we can't do it and we
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