One of the most popular things that I've talked about in the last decade is the idea

of relational leadership.

A lot of men still want to be able to lead within the context of relationship and a lot of

women still want a man who has the ability to lead. It doesn't mean that every single

woman wants you as a man to make all the decisions in the relationship. In fact, that's what a lot of

women will say that they don't want or is a major turnoff or gives them the ick or however people

phrase it. But the truth is that you as a man are still going to find value in leading in many different

aspects of your life.

And there are certain things that are going to break down your ability to lead relationally.

And I'm going to break down a couple things that collapses leadership within a relationship.

And then I give you three specific pillars or strategies

that will support you in relational leadership. So let's get in. First off, I want to say that

relational leadership is not about control. It's not about dominating situations, making every

single decision, choosing for the other person, your significant other, calling all the

shots. It's really about setting the direction and the vision for the relationship. Now, sometimes

that does mean that you are making big decisions. But in other times, you're collecting data

and information about what your significant other, what the relationship

might need, being able to assess that, and then being able to either collaboratively or individually

make decisions based on that place. If you are in a place of control, we do that because we don't

trust. And if you don't trust your significant other, they're going to feel that, they're going

to feel resentful, they're not going to feel safe or connected in the relationship, and you

are going to lose respect and engagement with the other person.

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