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Julie, tell me about your relationship with your neighbors.

In our apartment building, it's a huge apartment building, it's basically the size of a whole

city block and there are tons of people in there. The only people whose names I even know are

my immediate neighbors because we share a roof patio, like I can see them over the fence.

And when they first moved in, I remember my partner and I were like gardening on the roof and I was like,

Joe, we need to introduce ourselves to them and he was like, nope, we're not going to.

He's like, I don't want to, you can do that. You know, we did exchange names and say hi and that felt like a big victory.

However, we immediately, thereafter, went back to ignoring each other every time we see each other on the roof.

Maybe there's a small wave, but like that's it.

Hi, I'm Julie Beck, a senior editor at The Atlantic.

And I'm Becca Rashid, producer of The How-To Series. This is How to Talk to People.

It's really strange to think that the neighbors are the people who are literally closest to you and yet so many of us don't know that at all.

You know, I'd walk around town and I'd walk around the neighborhood and I'd be grumpy that everyone was so cold and what are people like these days?

And weren't like this when I lived here 10 years ago. But then I started practicing, you know, well, I'm kind of like them too because I'm not reaching out to them.

Pete Davis, who is a civic advocate and the author of this book dedicated the case for commitment and an age of infinite browsing.

He thinks one reason that neighbors don't always bother to get to know one another is he thinks our society has commitment issues.

And what I noticed that all the people that were giving me hope had in common and given my peers help had in common was they were all people who decided to forego a life of keeping their options open.

And instead make a commitment to a particular thing over the long haul.

So what does keeping our options open have to do with our sense of feeling like we're connected to our community?

What exactly about committing helps us feel connected?

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