Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, BTR.org. I'm Anne. I'm sure you remember what it was like when you were searching for help, maybe for your husband, hoping to find the right program or therapist. That's why I started podcasting. I supported my husband through seven years of pornography addiction recovery and not one therapist during that time told me I was experiencing emotional

and psychological abuse and sexual coercion. I didn't want any other woman on the planet to be in

the dark. If you're like the majority of my listeners, you're experiencing the type of abuse that's

invisible and difficult to wrap your head around. Your husband is using porn or having

affairs or lying to you, and you're getting the same bad advice about how to improve communication

or your relationship. If you need support from women who totally understand, check out our daily

group session schedule at BTR.org slash group. We'd love to see you in a session today. One simple, anonymous way to help spread the word

is to click, follow, or subscribe to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast on your favorite

podcasting app. While you're there, every five-star rating helps make this podcast more visible

and will help save other women from getting the wrong kind of help, like a couple

program that will make this type of abuse worse. For those of you who follow or subscribe to this

podcast, thank you so much. Your support means so much to me. We have a member of our community

on today's episode. We're going to call her Naomi. Welcome Naomi. Thank you. Let's start at the beginning of

your story when you were dating. Looking back, how would you describe it? I think it was a pretty

typical grooming process. He was just really kind. We were friends at first, and it progressed

into more. He was very attentive.

He was in contact almost like hourly.

He was constantly in contact with me.

I was always getting text messages, and he was always complimentary and kind.

He swept me off my feet.

After we got married, there would be these huge outbursts and this anger,

and he would say these horrible things.

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