How To Know If You’ve Found “The One”: The Science of Soulmates

The Liz Moody Podcast

Liz Moody

Health & Fitness, Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 22 September 2025

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

Do you believe in soulmates? I dive deep into the science to see what really makes love last and share my own love story with my husband, Zack. I’ll walk you through the psychological concept of “destiny belief” to what the research actually says about compatibility. You’ll also hear about the “Michelangelo Effect,” the power of values alignment, and what the best predictor of relationship satisfaction is. I’ll also share two questions that have helped me and so many others figure out if a partner is truly “the one.” Whether you're dating, partnered, or just reevaluating what love should look like, this episode will help you to see things in a more freeing, empowering way. We get into: Why our cultural obsession with “the one” might be holding us back The surprising science behind attraction, compatibility, and real connection What actually predicts long-term relationship success (hint: it’s not fate) Two questions that will let you know if someone is truly “your person” Ready to uplevel every part of your life? Order Liz’s book 100 Ways to Change Your Life: The Science of Leveling Up Health, Happiness, Relationships & Success now! Connect with Liz on Instagram @lizmoody or online at www.lizmoody.com. Subscribe to the substack by visiting https://lizmoody.substack.com/welcome. Buy our cute sweatshirts, conversation cards, and more at https://shop.lizmoody.com/. Use our discount codes from our highly vetted and tested brand partners by visiting https://www.lizmoody.com/codes. To join The Liz Moody Podcast Club Facebook group, go to www.facebook.com/groups/thelizmoodypodcast. This episode is brought to you completely free thanks to the following podcast sponsors: Great Lakes Wellness: go to GreatLakesWellness.com and use code LIZMOODY for 25% off Nutrafol: visit Nutrafol.com and use promo code LIZMOODY to get $10 off plus free shipping. Maui Nui: head to MauiNuiVenison.com/Liz to secure a FREE 12-pack of venison jerky sticks (a $79 value) with your first order of $79 or more. The Liz Moody Podcast cover art by Zack. The Liz Moody Podcast music by Alex Ruimy. Formerly the Healthier Together Podcast. This podcast and website represents the opinions of Liz Moody and her guests to the show. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for information purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions. The Liz Moody Podcast Episode 366. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Do you believe in soulmates? What if the way that we've been taught to think about the One is actually holding us back from finding real lasting love?
0:08.0	I actually have some pretty unconventional thoughts on Soulmates.
0:11.0	The way that most of us approach the idea of the One might be doing more harm than good.
0:16.0	We're chasing feelings that don't always align with reality, and often ignoring what science tells us
0:21.9	actually matters in a relationship.
0:24.7	That disconnect can cause confusion, heartbreak, and unrealistic expectations, and it's time
0:30.6	we start looking at love through a different lens.
0:33.9	Stick around until the end because if you have ever questioned your relationship, this episode
0:38.6	might just change how you think about love forever.
0:43.6	In this episode of the Liz Moody podcast, we're diving into the truth about soulmates.
0:49.3	You'll learn what research actually says about connection and compatibility, why that
0:53.7	magical spark can be misleading,
0:56.1	and the surprising predictors of long-term relationship success. I will also share two transformative
1:02.4	questions that can help you know if someone is truly the one. Let's start with a question.
1:07.9	When you meet someone, how do you actually know if they could be your
1:11.3	soulmate? We've all grown up on the idea that there's one person out there that we're destined
1:16.0	to be with. It is in every rom-com, every fairy tale, every love song. Even if you don't think you
1:22.5	believe in soulmates, this idea still sneaks in. Take that Lana Del Rey lyric. It's like, when you know, you know,
1:29.9	sorry for the singing. I totally love it, but it suggests that there's this magical moment of
1:35.1	certainty, that lightning bolt, that spark, that movie scene where two people lock eyes across a crowded
1:41.3	room and the world goes into slow motion. And because of all of that,
1:45.1	without even being consciously aware of it, a lot of us start measuring love by those feelings,
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