How to Know If You're Actually Having an Orgasm

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 2 December 2025

⏱️ 38 minutes

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1:09.7	a thought, a feeling that
1:11.5	registers in your brain, that your brain's like, we got to get going, let's get this blood flowing,
1:15.9	let's get the genitals on board, let's get the pelvic floor on board. You keep going, you keep moving
1:20.5	through this process, then bam, you have an orgasm. I know I wish it was that easy, that's simple,
1:24.2	that linear all the time, and that's why we're here to help you problem solve.
1:32.7	You're listening to Sex with Emily.
1:37.2	I'm Dr. Emily, here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex.
1:38.2	Today, we're diving into something I get asked about constantly.
1:41.3	Why do some orgasms feel completely different from others? And more
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