How to Initiate (If You Never Do)

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 25 April 2023

⏱️ 37 minutes

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There’s often someone who initiates the sex, and someone who says “yes” or “no.” These roles can work long-term, but what happens when sexual initiations become a problem? When you’re always hearing no, or when you always say no? On today’s show, I'm talking about sexual initiations and how to make this moment a better experience for all. When you’re the initiator, but want your partner to do it more often, how do you talk to them about it? We’ll also get into spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and as someone with responsive desire, I’ll share my routine for getting turned on for sex. Finally, when you and your partner are so busy that no one’s initiating, what’s the conversation you need to have? I advise a caller in this exact situation. Show Notes: The Future of Sex Tech The Sexiest Morning Routine Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) SmartMouth VUSH I Come First - Self-Connection Kit (Kit is 50% off, Save an additional 10% with the code EMILYICF) I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. MagBreakthrough.com/SexWithEmily (code SexWithEmily10 for 10% off) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Typically, there's one person who initiates all the time, and eventually the partner who's
0:06.4	initiating is like, okay, hello, let's take turns.
0:09.1	And so, the partner who's not initiating typically is because they literally don't have
0:13.6	experience doing it, and they really don't know how.
0:18.6	You're listening to Sex with Emily.
0:20.0	I'm Dr. Amley, and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation
0:24.9	around sex.
0:25.9	There's often someone who initiates the sex, and someone who says, yes, or no.
0:30.0	Now, these roles can work long-term, but what happens when sexual initiations become a
0:34.9	problem when you're always hearing no or when you always say no?
0:38.9	Well, on today's show, I'm talking about sexual initiations and how to make this moment
0:43.4	a better experience for all.
0:45.3	When you're the initiator, but what your partner to do it more often, how do you talk to
0:49.5	them about it?
0:50.5	We're also going to do spontaneous versus responsive desire, and as someone with responsive
0:54.4	desire, I'll share my routine for getting turned on for sex.
0:57.7	Finally, when you and your partner are so busy that no one's initiating, what's the
1:01.6	conversation you need to have?
1:03.5	I advise a caller in this exact situation.
1:06.6	In Tetions with Emily for each episode, I want to start off by setting intention for
1:10.1	the show, and I encourage you to do the same.
1:12.3	My intention is to empower you with sexual initiations, whether you're giving or receiving.
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