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How To! with Mike Pesca

How To Host With Ease

How To! with Mike Pesca

Peach Fish Projects

Education, How To

4.3 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 2 September 2025

⏱️ 40 minutes

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Summary

Krystina used to host gatherings all the time. Then came kids and the pandemic, and the parties ground to a halt. She's feeling a renewed urge to bring people together—specifically her inspiring, badass female friends—but every time she starts to plan something meaningful, she balks. On this episode: How To!'s Courtney Martin connects Krystina with Katherine Goldstein of the Substack and podcast The Double Shift. Katherine shares what she's learned from her new project, The How To Find Your People Club, including a guiding principle: Don't overthink it.

More from The How to Find Your People Club: 8 Ways to Embrace "Deep Casual Hosting" (So You'll Actually Do It)

More Advice for the "Deep Casual" Hosting Movement!

A Research-Backed Method to Ramp Up Our Social Skills

A Nitty-Gritty Guide to Finding a Community That's Right for You

If you liked this episode, check out How To Throw a Party They'll Remember and How To Find Friends in Unexpected Places.

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The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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0:00.0

Hi everyone, I'm Susie Weiss, and I've noticed there's just simply not enough podcasts in the world. So I'm launching my own. Let's go. Let's go, baby. Second Thought is a weekly show about pop culture. The stuff everyone's been binging, arguing about, obsessing over. Here's the thing about heated rivalry. I mean, even the most devoted swifties, I think we can agree, not our best work. We'll be hosting thoughtful conversations with culture's most important figures. Talk about genius.

0:22.6

Talk about generational talent.

0:23.7

Coming to headphones near you on can agree not our best work. We'll be hosting thoughtful conversations with culture's most important figures.

0:21.8

Talk about genius.

0:22.6

Talk about generational talent.

0:23.7

Coming to headphones near you on April 17th with a first guest you won't want to miss.

0:27.8

Available wherever you get your podcasts.

0:31.3

I'm Courtney Martin, and this is How To, the show where listeners bring us a goal they want to accomplish or a conundrum

0:37.9

they're struggling with, and we find the perfect helper to get them unstuck.

0:42.7

Today's episode is one I am very excited about, not only because we're talking about

0:46.9

one of my profoundly happy places, but because it's something that seems frivolous on the

0:52.6

surface but actually underpins society itself.

0:57.1

And that is bringing people together.

1:01.0

Recently, I've been feeling called to just gather women.

1:05.1

After having two daughters and going through the pandemic, I've wanted to reconnect with more women in particular, but I'm having

1:11.8

trouble getting it off the ground. That's our listener, Christina. She works in communications

1:17.2

for a small health care system and also does grant writing and content writing for mission-driven

1:22.0

organizations. Or, to boil it down, she's really good at connecting with people.

1:29.6

So it should be simple, right?

1:33.7

Call up a group of friends, invite them over for a dinner party, have a good time.

1:39.2

A little after, a deep conversation or two, rinse and repeat.

1:43.5

I'm at this inflection point in my life where I'm nearing 40,

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