The thing that's so powerful, you guys, is over time. It gets better and better and richer and richer, but you have to keep going. That's why we're so big into making this sustainable, because your best moments around this table are going to be years from now, but you're going to lay that groundwork when your kids are young. Our goal was always to create the kind of meal that our kids, when they have kids, could not imagine missing if they were in town.

Almost like, I can't wait to have kids just so they could be at this table.

Welcome back to the Family Teams podcast.

This month, we are talking about the multi-generational family meal.

The goal that Jeremy talked about last time was we want three generations at one table, one time per week. That's the goal that we're shooting for long term. But the problem is that most families, when they try something new, or at least my family try something new, we'll feel good, we'll do it for a couple weeks, and then it quietly starts to kind of fall by the wayside. And maybe something new will take its place. So today what we're going to be talking about is how do we build this into a real pillar of our family life, not just like a flash in the pan, but something that we do week in and week out and becomes like a wellspring of life for our family for years and years. So we're talking about sustainability. So Jeremy, fast forward 20, 30 years from now. What does this

look like when it actually lasts? What makes this sustainable for a family in the long term?

Yeah, it all comes down to what do you do on the weeks when you don't want to do this? You don't have the

energy. Is it going to be this massive lift? And you're just going to say, guys, this is not worth out. You just don't have it today because we've just made it too complicated. And oftentimes, that happens because families design this around their ideal week. If everything is going amazing, we're going to, we're going to cap it off with this amazing meal. But how often do you have your ideal week where everything's amazing? It's like very rare. And of course, you have those

really hard weeks. And often in those really difficult weeks, that's when you need this the most.

And so it's really important for you to figure out how to make this sustainable, how to how to find

the easy button on the hard weeks. And so we need to talk through like what are the ways to

ensure that no matter what's going on in your family's life, we're going to establish this as a regular tradition.

It doesn't mean that you absolutely keep it every single week.

But on a normal week, on a normal hard week, you keep this tradition.

And part of what you have to understand about family tradition is that when you repeat something, that's when it becomes a part of

the culture. And that's when it's maximally impactful. If you are constantly starting and stopping

or forgetting or then it's, you're sort of like demonstrating to your family that our family

culture is really not that important. A lot of other things are really important. You think about all the things that you do, whether you like it or not, go to work, you know,

in education, whatever you guys might do, this has got to be one of those things if this is going

to be a keystone to your family's culture.

Yeah. Jeff, what do you think actually turns this from a short-term habit into a long-term

family institution?

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