How to Help Kids (And Ourselves) Tame the Inner Voice and Clear the Chatter w/ Dr. Ethan Kross

Raising Good Humans

Voicing Change Media

Education, Kids & Family, Parenting

4.7 • 1.9K Ratings

🗓️ 11 April 2025

⏱️ 46 minutes

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I’m so excited to welcome back Dr. Ethan Kross, psychologist, neuroscientist, and author of Chatter, for a fascinating conversation about the inner voice we all live with—and how it can help or hurt us. We talk about how to support our kids (and ourselves) when that voice gets loud, critical, or overwhelming. Ethan shares incredibly helpful, science-backed tools for calming the chatter, building resilience, and knowing when support turns into co-rumination. I WROTE MY FIRST BOOK! Order your copy of The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans Here: https://bit.ly/3rMLMsL Subscribe to my free newsletter for parenting tips delivered straight to your inbox: draliza.substack.com Follow me on Instagram for more: @raisinggoodhumanspodcast Sponsors: Great Wolf Lodge: Learn more at GreatWolf.com Saks.com: SHOP SAKS.COM Vionic: Use code HUMANS at checkout for 15% off your entire order at www.vionicshoes.com when you log into your account. 1 time use only Active Skin Repair: Visit https://www.ActiveSkinRepair.com to learn more about Active Skin Repair and to get 20% off your order, use code: HUMANS. Wayfair: Head over to Wayfair.com and find something that’s just your style today Kiwico: Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code RGH Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode. Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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0:00.0	The following podcast is a Dear Media production.
0:09.8	Welcome to Raising Good Humans.
0:11.8	I'm Dr. Lisa Pressman.
0:13.5	And today I've brought back Professor Ethan Cross, brilliant psychologist and neuroscientist, who talking today about chatter, that inner voice
0:24.4	that kind of just goes too far and stops us from problem solving and moving forward.
0:31.5	How do we interrupt chatter, disruptive chatter? How do we recognize it in our kids? And at the end, I think after all of the
0:42.2	concrete tools that Ethan provides, we talk about how do you know when it becomes this co-ruminative
0:51.9	chatter where you've got a kid opening up to you. It feels like you're really
0:55.8	helpful because you're being supportive and listening, but maybe it's going too far and actually
1:01.6	backfiring. How do we recognize that? And how do we move that into a more productive and
1:08.8	supportive way of connecting.
1:11.8	Okay.
1:12.2	So the first question, obviously, we need to answer is what is chatter and broadly.
1:21.0	And also, like, is there any benefit, downsides?
1:24.9	And then we'll talk about managing all of this.
1:27.3	Sure. All right. So in order to answer what chatter is, we have to take a step back and first
1:32.8	talk about what this mysterious concept that we've all heard about at times, actually,
1:41.0	which is the inner voice. So what does it mean to have like a voice inside your head?
1:45.0	You hear about this all the time.
1:46.5	Yes.
1:46.9	Your inner voice is your ability to silently use language.
1:51.4	And it turns out that that is a veritable superpower that we possess.
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