Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

I used to think that chemistry meant compatibility, but man, was I wrong?

And it doesn't mean you can't be compatible with chemistry, but if you connect through

chemistry right away without understanding of you're compatible and values and vision, all these

different things, it's going to end up being painful. And what I was really feeling was a familiar

pain when I felt that chemistry in new relationships.

Until I started to do the inner work, until I started to face myself spiritually, physically,

metaphorically, until I started to do exercises and workshops and therapeutic experiences that allowed me to

heal the pain that was inside of me that had been wounded and broken for so long,

that never mend it until I started to do more journaling and reflection and self-reflection

and alone time with myself without distractions

so I could really listen and face myself because it's hard to heal if you're always distracting

yourself with the next thing that creates chemical feelings inside of your body.

You need some space.

You need some alone time. You need to be able to create experiences to reflect and think about why, how, who, what. And what you can do to start

processing them, to start grieving these losses, to start creating

healthy boundaries, to start improving yourself, to start creating new standards, you need

that space and time.

But if you distract yourself with other people or other problems or social media and you

never take that alone time, it's going to be painful for a long time.

And I wasn't, I was afraid to face myself.

So I kept repeating the same mistakes over and over again in new relationships, thinking

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