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Hamid Ali said, I told people I was the greatest, but factually I wasn't, but I said it. And you know what happened? I became it.

The mind doesn't know of what you tell it is true or false. It really has no idea because the mind can't tell the difference in what's real or imagined.

If you watch a terrifying show at night, you feel scared.

If you watch a gruesome operation, you think, well, I can't look at this bit.

Yeah, yeah.

Because the mind does not know is this existing in reality or in your imagination.

And I want you to say, I accept that I'm feeling angry, overwhelmed and not good enough.

I accept that I'm feeling angry, overwhelmed and not good enough. I accept that I'm feeling angry, overwhelmed and not good enough.

Because...

Hi everybody, Matt Willis here, and this is the podcast where we look back at life's toughest moments to figure out how to move forward.

I spent years trying to kind of get control of my own mind,

right? Through even when I think about addiction, I was kind of trying to kind of correct something

or kind of trying to find something. And I'm still working on it now. Exploring this with me today

is world-renowned therapist, Marissa Pia. Marissa, thank you so much you're coming on.

Thank you for inviting me. I'm so excited to have you on. Me too. I've been very, very excited. I mean, lots of our audience are either people struggling with problems with addiction or with mental health and they're kind of suffering in or they're the loved one of someone who's suffering. So we kind of get loads of questions in and loads of messages.

One that kind of upsets me the most, I think, is one that they say they tried and it didn't

work or they can't change, but they can't change their head.

Do you hear that a lot?

Yeah, but, you know, trying is a misdirect.

The word trying implies failure. Never saying I'm going to try and read my iPad now. I'm going to try and speak into the mic. So to get your brain to work before, you have to really understand the language it uses. And it's that one because I'm trying to fall asleep. Well, here's the thing. Trying implies failure. Falling is the greatest fear. I'm trying to fall pregnant. That's so weird to the brain. You're not trying, not going to fall. And being pregnant doesn't mean you'll ever have a baby. But if you flip that to I'm making a baby today, the brain understands it. So you've got to learn language and what the brain understands and what it doesn't understand. If you say I'm going to try

and get that job, you've already said, I'm not going to get it. And so your brain isn't going to help you have a great memory and be really good at speaking and give a great presentation. If you say, I'm on it, I'm doing it, that job has got my name all over it. Your brain will help you. The minute you say try it goes

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