How to Heal Attachment Wounds - Anxious or Avoidant Attachment styles w/ Jessica Baum

Therapy in a Nutshell

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education, Health & Fitness:mental Health, Self-improvement

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🗓️ 10 April 2026

⏱️ 51 minutes

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If you’ve ever wondered whether your attachment style is fixed, good news: it’s not. In this conversation with therapist and author Jessica Baum, LMHC (Anxiously Attached; SAFE), we unpack practical, step-by-step ways to heal attachment wounds, shift anxious attachment and avoidant patterns, and build secure attachment—in real relationships, not just in your head. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

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0:00.0	Welcome back to another episode of the Therapy in a Nutshell podcast. I'm Emma McAdam and I'm a licensed
0:05.6	marriage and family therapist. And this podcast is all about taking the life-changing, but usually
0:11.0	kind of complicated topics of therapy and boiling them down into simple, easy to understand concepts
0:16.8	that you can use in your daily life. If you find today's episode as helpful to you,
0:21.1	please pass it on to someone else who could benefit from it as well. Each podcast episode comes
0:25.1	from a corresponding video you can find on the Therapy in a Nutshell YouTube channel. Also,
0:30.0	these podcasts are educational and don't replace the advice or direction you may be receiving
0:34.0	from a therapist or other health professionals. Now please, enjoy the episode.
0:38.9	We tend to be drawn to what's familiar and what might have hurt us in the past, and we
0:43.5	recreate the same pattern in our adult life. And I think this is where people can really get
0:49.4	the information and start to break free from that paradigm and start to heal so they're not always repeating the same
0:55.4	painful trauma bond or pattern in their life. Hey, everyone, today we have a special guest. We're going to be
1:01.3	talking about how to build secure attachment. Now, a lot of people think your attachment style,
1:06.4	like whether you're anxious or avoidant or secure is like a permanent feature of your personality
1:11.5	that it's unchangeable. But it's not true. There's a lot you can do about it. And today,
1:15.9	Jessica Baum is a licensed mental health counselor. And she's the author of two books on attachment.
1:21.0	The first one is anxiously attached. And the new one is called Safe, an attachment-informed
1:25.7	guide to building more secure relationships. Today we're going to be talking about practical step-by-step is called Safe, an Attachment-informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships.
1:28.4	Today we're going to be talking about practical step-by-step ways that you can come to
1:33.8	know your own attachment style, be more aware of your attachment patterns, and how you
1:39.9	can take small actions to heal yourself within your relationships so you can be more securely
1:47.3	attached. And of course, I end up crying in this session because I start talking about me. And that's
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