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How to Be a Better Human

How to have great sex (w/ Siphumeze Khundayi and Tiffany Mugo) (re-release)

How to Be a Better Human

TED

Emotional Awareness, Self-help, Interviews, Education, Self-improvement, Chris Duffy, Better Human, Personal Growth

4.11.4K Ratings

🗓️ 13 April 2026

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

Sex is a normal part of human life, but it can also get complicated–whether you’re having it or not! The way we approach, think, and engage with our sexuality varies widely our culture, community, identity, and more. But one thing we can all strive for is healthy and safe sex. Siphumeze Khundayi and Tiffany Mugo are two sex educators and the co-founders of HOLAAfrica (HOLAA!) a Pan-Africanist digital platform that focuses on creating spaces that deal with safe sex and pleasure. Today they share insights on the kinds of mental and emotional tools we can turn to in order to have great sex, why it’s ok to take small steps on your sexual journey, and why it’s important to take ownership of your pleasure.


(This episode originally aired in 2022)

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0:00.0

Hey everyone, Chris Duffy here.

0:02.0

We wanted to share a special episode from the archive today.

0:05.1

I hope you enjoy.

0:10.4

I'm your host, Chris Duffy, and you're listening to How to Be a Better Human.

0:15.4

Today, we're going to be talking about sex.

0:18.5

And it sometimes feels like the more that we know, the more we discover is still out there.

0:23.6

While conversations about sex and sexuality are more out in the open these days,

0:27.6

for many people there is still a lot of embarrassment and shame around the topic.

0:32.6

And as a result, many people avoid talking about it at all.

0:36.6

Myself included, I will readily admit that I get very awkward and very nervous when I try and talk about sense.

0:44.6

Luckily, today's guests, Sifumezai Kunday and Tiffany Mugo, are the founders of the hub of loving action in Africa, otherwise known as Hala Africa.

0:53.6

And they are known for promoting conversations about sex and sexuality across the continent.

1:00.0

What started as a passion project while they were still in university has now exploded

1:03.6

into articles, workshops, a podcast, a TED talk, and so much more.

1:08.2

But at its core, Hala Africa is a place where African women and queer people

1:12.8

have a safe space to talk about sex in a way that's positive and not just centered on trauma or

1:18.2

shame or sadness, and also not centered on the often repressive ideas about love and pleasure

1:23.7

that have historically been promoted by the Western world. So in today's episode,

1:28.3

I'm going to talk with Tiffany and Sifumez about what they've learned in the process of gathering

1:32.5

so many other people's stories, how to let go of shame so that we can communicate more freely,

1:37.6

and how to nurture a healthier and safer attitude towards sex, regardless of what you're into,

1:42.5

or not into. To get started, here is a clip from their TED Talk.

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