Today we're talking about how to have a difficult conversation.

What is it about difficult conversations that

well make them so difficult and how can you make them a little easier in your life?

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When it's time for that difficult conversation, number one, don't begin with, how are you? How are things?

Difficult conversations are not the time for small talk. The only thing that should come out of your mouth is thank you for making the time to talk with me.

Number two, follow that up with, I need your help.

I need your help knowing how to feel about this.

I need your help knowing what to do about this.

When you say I need your help knowing what to do about this. When you say I need your help it takes it from

opponents to teammates and number three end with how you feel about the conversation.

I feel better having talked with you. I feel more settled

after discussing this and the key is you then end it with so how about you?

When you say how about you you are getting them to connect with you to say how do you feel about this conversation do you feel better about it or do we need to continue to talk now when I get questions about how to have a difficult conversation. It typically revolves around having to deliver

bad news, meaning there is something negative that you need to say to someone and you know

they are not going to like it. You know they're going to get upset, it's going to bother them, it's going to ruin the mood, it's going to ruin the atmosphere, or possibly ruin the relationship. Or you see with how to address a sensitive topic.

Maybe it's something that's been laid heavy on your heart and you don't know how to start

or something that's been bothering you and you know it's for the best that you talk to this other person about it and you just don't know where to begin.

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