How to Handle Mismatched Libidos Without Ruining Your Relationship

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 18 July 2025

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse tackles the myths, insecurities, and real-life situations that often come with high sex drives, mismatched libidos, and performance anxiety. Alongside co-host Anderson, she answers listener questions and offers heartfelt, humorous, and sex-positive advice on topics ranging from post-baby confidence to breakups and virginity. We explore whether wanting more sex is actually a problem (spoiler: it's not), how to navigate mismatched libidos without shame or labels, and why performance anxiety during first-time experiences is completely normal. Emily addresses a new mom struggling with body confidence and low libido postpartum, offering practical advice on patience, mindful touch, and rebuilding sexual energy through Kegels and self-care. This episode also dives into breakup survival, including how to live with an ex, resist "revenge sex," and create your own closure rather than expecting it from someone else. We tackle the age-old question of whether you should share your sexual history with partners (Emily's answer: probably not) and explore why "body count" doesn't determine sexual skill. Communication, presence, and adaptability do. Timestamps: Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 4:29 - Breaking Dating Patterns 10:04 - Sexual History: Should You Share Your Number? 15:11 - High Sex Drive Mismatch 22:04 - Living with Your Ex: Survival Guide 24:10 - Post-Baby Body Confidence Crisis 31:02 - The 31-Year-Old Virgin's Performance Anxiety 36:39 - Breakup Sex Fantasy: Why It's a Bad Idea 39:17 - Wrap-Up

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1:46.5	So here's the thing. I think a lot of this, well, all of it probably is in your head. And it makes a sense that this is happening. It's totally normal. A lot of guys experience anxiety is the first time, the 10th time, the 20th time. They either come too early. They have trouble maintaining erection. They can't orgasm at all. You're listening to Sex with Emily.
1:48.6	I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and have better sex.
1:54.2	Today we're talking about something that touches everyone at some point in their intimate lives, sexual confidence.
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