How To Get Your Freak On After Kids
Care and Feeding | Slate's parenting show
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4.4 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 9 February 2026
⏱️ 46 minutes
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Summary
On this episode: Let’s talk about sex, baby! Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are joined by sex therapist and author Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy to get tips and advice for keeping the spice alive after kids. They talk about how to find flirty moments when life is overwhelming, a little advice from the movie Hitch (remember that one with Will Smith?), and Dr. Eudy explains the power of whispering. Plus! Lucy’s husband makes a surprise cameo. (It was as much a surprise to him as everyone else. But he’s a champ.)
Podcast production by Cheyna Roth. Video production by Micah Phillips.
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| 0:00.0 | This episode may contain explicit language. |
| 0:08.4 | This is Karen Feeding. |
| 0:09.6 | We're three friends with kids who get together every week to talk life, swap advice, |
| 0:14.1 | and keep each other sane while we muddle through the weird and wonderful thing called parenting. |
| 0:19.6 | I'm Elizabeth Newkamp. |
| 0:20.8 | I write the homeschool and family travel blog Dutch Dutch goose. I'm Elizabeth Newkamp. I write the homeschool and |
| 0:21.8 | family travel blog, Dutch Dutch goose. I'm the mom to three, Henry who's 13, Oliver who's 11, |
| 0:27.6 | and Teddy who's nine. We live in Honolulu, Hawaii. Hey, I'm Lucy Lopez. I host another podcast, |
| 0:34.2 | the Mamasita Rica. I'm Mother to Amelia, who is 15, Avery, who's 13, and we live in the 305. |
| 0:40.9 | I'm Zach Rosen. I make another show. It's called Weirdly Helpful. I am dad to Noah, who's eight, |
| 0:45.7 | mommy, who's five. We're in the 313. That's Detroit. We're here to talk about the ups, downs, |
| 0:52.4 | and everything in between when it comes to parenting. |
| 0:55.0 | Every week, we commiserate and try to make this feel like the kind of conversation you have |
| 0:59.9 | with your friends. And today, we're talking about sex. Dr. Rebecca Udi is joining us to answer |
| 1:07.2 | all your questions on how to keep the spice alive, even after having kids. |
| 1:13.1 | Who knows, maybe my amazing husband will make a cameo if I'm feeling frisky. |
| 1:19.6 | I guess you're going to have to find out. |
| 1:21.2 | Yeah, it's amazing. |
| 1:23.0 | Stick around. |
| 1:23.6 | We'll be right back. |
| 1:42.0 | Okay. Let's talk about sex, baby. Not the version before kids. This is the after kids edition, the one where you're tired, maybe touched out, and wondering if |
| 1:46.7 | everyone else got some secret memo that you missed. So today, we're talking honestly about |
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