So I have a viewer question that says, I've had feelings for this person for a while and told

them twice how I felt. Yet, now that I've moved on, they've informed me that they missed me because

of how I treated them. What am I supposed to do and how do I handle this situation? Well, the way

you look at that is the quickest way to get somebody else's attention is to remove yours.

And so you never try to keep somebody in your life that doesn't want to keep you in theirs.

And so if you've told the person on multiple occasions that you're interested or you're into them and they don't do anything and they're single, then the only thing you really can do, because if you love yourself and you value yourself, you want to give what you have to somebody that appreciates and reciprocates. So in this case, they've let their interests be known. For a guy, you extend an invitation to a girl. You ask her out. You invite her to hang out, have fun, and potentially hook up with her. Not you're going to mention that to her. But that's the objective. And if the other person doesn't reciprocate, if they're not excited at the opportunity, if they don't have enthusiasm to be with you, you don't want somebody that's on the fence. You want somebody who jump fences to be with you. They're excited when you tell them about your interest or as a guy, you ask her out on a date. But women that aren't excited, it's like even when you go out on dates with them, even when she's super hot, if you, you spend 10 minutes talking to her when you meet her and the conversation doesn't flow, she doesn't really try to engage with you. It's like, why would you want to go out and try to spend money on her? And a lot of guys will do that. And a lot of women will go out with guys because, hey, it's better than staying home looking at the four walls, get her out of the house, get a nice free meal out of it. Maybe she meets somebody when she's out with him. And so you got to make sure if you're going to go out, if you're a guy, especially, you're going to invite somebody to spend time with you and spend money and your time, the time is the greatest gift you can give anybody. You want to make sure they actually want to be there and they're excited to be there. And so when you don't love and value yourself,

you'll stay engaged. Like in my case grown up, I had very cold unaffectionate parents. And so

when I was younger and didn't know any better and I was interested in a girl and she didn't pay

much attention to me, it felt like the relationship I had with my mother. So I would stay engaged

because I wanted love, I wanted affection from her, but wasn't getting it. And so I'd meet women when I was younger didn't know any better, and I would stay engaged, instead of just, oh, they're not interested, and you move on. And just the act of doing that, just like the strongest negotiating positions being able to walk away and mean it.

So if you make your interest known, you ask her out on a date, she's not into it, she's not excited,

then you have to stay focused on what you want, which if you're seeking love, you want to find somebody that reciprocates.

And so you follow your goal, your ideal, which is to find somebody that reciprocates. And so you follow your goal, your ideal,

which is to find somebody that will love you back.

And when somebody won't reciprocate, you just move on.

And sometimes, maybe in that case, they acted needy.

And then they turned that person off,

even though they might have already been interested

because attraction is not a choice.

They either like you or they don't. And so if you acted needy and then they're like a guy

gets stuck in friend zone, he doesn't stick around for that. He just moves on. And sometimes just

the act of him disappearing and because the idea is if you walk away and and mean it means you're never going to speak again

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