How To Get Someone Else To Change | E55

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

YAP Media Network | Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Mental Health, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Relationships

4.7 • 890 Ratings

🗓️ 27 August 2014

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

Are you really worried about someone in your life? Are you being negatively impacted by the consequences of someone else's behavior? Few things are more frustrating than seeing someone you love suffering, spinning out of control, and unable or unwilling to get help. What to do? On today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I'll teach you how to avoid the biggest mistake you can make in this situation, and the surprising way to not just help-- but get your inner peace back. We'll talk about what it really means to "help" someone versus accidentally enable them to persist in their problems. You'll learn about how to avoid damaging your relationship with your loved one, and how to avoid the power struggle of co-dependency. By shifting your definition of what it means to help, you'll learn how to regain control of the situation. Getting clear about your boundaries, your values, and the one thing you really have power over (you) you'll start helping your loved one develop the authentic, inner motivation they need to make lasting change. The road to recovery is hard, but when you learn how to stop controlling, stop being upset, and start giving people the kind of help they really need you can change from being an accidental obstacle to recovery, to a catalyst for their growth. Lastly, I'll be giving you some practical steps for how to help yourself during your loved one's change process. -- Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

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0:00.0	This is Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby and you're listening to the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast.
0:08.0	Your hand on his arm, he's stacked charm around your neck, neck Strong out and thin
0:22.6	Calling some friend
0:24.6	Trying to cash some check
0:26.6	He's acting dumb
0:28.6	That's what you've come to expect
0:32.6	Needle in the Hay
0:35.6	And that is Elliot Smith With the needle in the hay and today on the love happiness and success podcast
0:45.9	we're going there we're going to talk about what to do when somebody in your life is messing up
0:53.7	and they're not okay and you would really like them to
0:57.8	change. Maybe you're worried about them. Maybe they are impacting your life negatively because
1:03.4	of the stuff that they're doing. It could be a family member. It could be your partner.
1:09.3	But it's an important topic because there are a few things that can
1:13.7	make us feel more helpless and more frustrated than not being able to help somebody that we love.
1:21.1	And, you know, maybe it's a family member who's struggling with drug or alcohol addiction
1:25.4	and who's in denial. or maybe it's your partner
1:30.6	who is doing things that make life difficult for you and make it feel difficult to have a good
1:36.9	relationship with them.
1:39.6	And it's very frustrating when these things keep happening over and over and you feel like your happiness is really dependent on somebody else changing because it just feels really out of control and helpless.
1:53.6	And I know that this is such an important topic because I hear all the time from clients that are, I mean, routinely struggling because of what other
2:04.3	people are doing and feeling so frustrated that they can't seem to help other people change.
2:09.2	It could be their mother, their sister, their husband, their wife.
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