Hello, Upgrade listeners. This is Alice, and this week we're bringing you an episode from the Upgrade

Archives. It's How to Find Love with Matchmaker Dr. Frankie. We hope you enjoy it, and we'll be

bringing you a new episode one week at a time.

I'm Melissa Kirsch, editor-in-chief of Lifehacker.

And I'm Alice Bradley, Lifehacker's deputy editor.

And today we're talking about how to find love.

It's officially cuffing season, or so some call the fall and winter months, where cold weather

and prolonged time spent indoors cause people to want to couple up and hunker down.

But how do we even begin to find love in this messy world of online dating, ghosting, and benching?

To get some tips, we interviewed a real-life matchmaker, Dr. Frankie, about why people are turning

to old-school intermediaries like herself to find love.

People are looking for people who have passion in their lives that have either a big career,

or it doesn't even have to be a big career,

but it's something that they're passionate about.

Then we have a recipe for a sexy three-ingredient cocktail from LifeHackers skillet editor Claire Lower.

To me, there is nothing more seductive than a perfect martini.

Managing editor Virginia Smith goes over the principles of Tinder etiquette, or lack thereof,

with etiquette expert Daniel Post Sending.

Be honest. It's a core tenet of all good etiquette, consideration, respect, and honesty.

And of course, we'll finish with our upgrades of the week.

Melissa, I've got a question for you.

Hit me.

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