I think what people often do in friendship is that they let it kind of slide away as they

move the pieces of the rest of their life like romantic partnerships and careers and family and I really

don't want people to treat friendship as so

disposable really.

Welcome to How-To, I'm Courtney Martin.

We are continuing our series on Friendship.

So last week we talked about expanding our horizons with new cross-generational friendships,

and today we're going to look at our existing friendships and how they evolve.

Listen, people change, right? We move, we have kids, or don't.

We stop partying like we used to, we just get older.

And hopefully we get clearer about who we really are

and what we want and need from our relationships.

Now in the midst of all that,

how do we take an old friendship and breathe new life into it?

That's what we're going to figure out today.

Thanks to a brave listener, we're calling Michelle.

I've been friends with Blair since grad school which is well over a decade now.

Our eyes met across the room in a grad school auditorium and it was love at first sight.

It really was.

We, me and Blair connected really quickly.

It was very easy to talk with her.

We had a lot of similar hobbies and values.

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