How to End a Friendship, With Psychologist Miriam Kirmayer
The Upgrade by Lifehacker
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4.6 • 688 Ratings
🗓️ 2 December 2019
⏱️ 43 minutes
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Summary
We're tackling tough friendship scenarios this week with psychologist Miriam Kirmayer, who explains why it's so hard to navigate the norms of friendship and how to peacefully end those connections that are no longer working. Afterward, Dr. Kirmayer answers Upgrade listener- and Lifehacker reader-submitted friendship questions.
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| 1:09.1 | I'm Melissa Kirsch, editor-in-chief of LifeHacker. |
| 1:11.9 | And I'm Alice Bradley, Lifehacker's deputy editor. And today we're discussing weird friendship situations. |
| 1:18.8 | How do you deal with that friend who's problematic? How do you know when it's time to end a |
| 1:23.9 | friendship? And how do you do it? To help us with this tricky topic, we spoke with |
| 1:28.7 | Miriam Kerrmeyer, a clinical psychologist who's been researching the science of friendships for nearly a |
| 1:33.9 | decade. One of the things that makes our friendships so powerful and important and so strongly |
| 1:40.6 | linked with our sense of well-being and mental health is the fact that they're voluntary. |
| 1:52.2 | And so what that means is that friends do have to choose on an ongoing daily basis to remain involved in each other's lives and to stay connected in that way. |
| 1:57.4 | We asked you to send your friendship dilemmas for Dr. Kerrmeyer, so she'll be answering some of your questions as well. |
| 2:00.7 | Thanks to everyone who wrote to us with stories of their friendship problems. |
| 2:06.7 | Hey, Alice. Yes, Melissa. Tell me about a friendship that went south. You know, I have so many of these. I've been thinking about this just because of the topic of the podcast, and there's a bunch. |
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